My lovely husband died of cancer, 2 weeks after being diagnosed

by Lesley

My husband and I met when I was just 17 and he 24. I am now 46. We had just returned from seeing our son and his wife in America. We had only been home 2 weeks, when he suddenly collapsed at home.

At first we were told he had a severe chest infection. Over the following 5 weeks he was discharged from hospital 3 times. The last time he was discharged he was told he had lymphoma and would need chemo, but had an 80% chance of full recovery. He started his chemo on September 24th, 2 weeks after he was diagnosed, and he died 4 hours later.

I did not even have chance to get used to the idea that he was ill, never mind that he could die. He meant everything to me. He was my husband, best friend and lover. I have never lived alone and feel totally lost and frightened of life without him.

We have two great children, both married. My daughter is expecting our first grandchild in Jan 2010. He was so looking forward to being a grandad. Life is so cruel.

I can't believe there will be a time when I will feel whole and happy again.

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Aug 22, 2014
Such a shock
by: Paula

I met my future husband in March this year, it was love at first laugh and we quickly discovered we were true soulmates and planned to marry on October 11th 2014. On June 25th he had a first and only seizure and was diagnosed with growths on his lung and brain on June 27th. He needed to return to hospital for a biopsy sometime in the following 2 weeks. On waking on July 6th I discovered he was unresponsive but breathing. He was admitted to ICU where he stayed asleep and died late afternoon on July 11th. He was 54. His cerebral fluid was too thick and would not drain through the shunt. We had our wedding rings dedicated by the hospital chaplain. I am desolate. There was no time to take anything in. I try to comfort myself by knowing he will have no further pain or fear.
I see many other stories like mine here and know I'm not alone, I wish you well.

Aug 17, 2014
My dear darling husband
by: dbkmb

My husband died of metastatic lung cancer 3 weeks and 6 days ago. He was being treated for Atrial Fibrillation, (in fact the AF was symptom of the cancer but not pick up) and later diagnosed with a chest infection and c o p d. I asked if he had lung cancer I was told his lungs were clear, GP sent him to hospital for the chest infection to be treated. 3 days later I was told that he had lung cancer. He was transferred to the Hospital in London for an emergency operation to open his airways and then for treatment for the cancer, I was so hopeful, but 18 days after the diagnosis of cancer he died. We were together for nearly 52 years and married for nearly 50 years, having met at 19. He was the love of my life and my best friend, really my only friend. I have never lived alone and He was a wonderful man.
We had so many plans for the next few years of our life, now not to be. Life is brutal
I understand your pain as I am in the same position.

Feb 02, 2014
My dad died 3 weeks after being diagnosed with lung cancer
by: Anonymous

No time to get used to it. I only found out 3 days before he died.
It's very hard I have so many questions and I'm angry. I didn't think you could just for so fast. He was fine at Xmas he died jan 16 2014, was even working that morning. I'm how I'm not alone but so sorry for everyone on here.

I wanted to ask so many questions and see if it was the pain medication but since others have died that fast after diagnosis maybe I can find peace that it was his time.

Nov 09, 2013
lost husband and was scammed
by: Anonymous

i lost my husband 3 years ago for bone cancer, it was so difficult to lead a life without him, we had been together for 26 years.
8 months ago, i found my second love in dating website, through him, i was able to forget my ex, or the sad feeling i had whenever thinking of the lose of my ex, i wanna start a new life, so i devoted all myself to my new love, we planned to marry when he came to see me,but last month, he suddenly out of contact, and only by that time, i realized that he was a dating scammer.

I am terribly hurt, emotionally and financially, now, i found myself miss even more my ex, his love to me was so true and pure!

Oct 22, 2013
I lost my father
by: Anonymous

I can relate.

My father, my world, passed away in 2006. This happened in less than 2 weeks after being diagnosed with Stage 4 Gastric Cancer.
I was only 16. I knew that Cancer was a terrible thing to have! That much I knew. Though, never in my wildest dreams, better yet in my nightmares, did I ever imagine that my dear father would leave this earth. That he would disappear from my eyes.
To this day, I still struggle to comprehend what happened. It still brings me to tears and I'm going on 24. I don't cry because he passed on, I know it's a path we all will take. I cry because I can't imagine how he felt after being diagnosed and told what his chances of survival are. I had never seen my father cry, ever! Yet during a phone call he made to me when he was in hospital, I heard him cry after I said hello on my end. That will always be on my mind. He is at peace, I know. But I miss that man dearly!

Feb 23, 2013
Wife died due to skin cancer
by: mohan

My wife 43 years died in 23.11.2012 after two times operation of abdomen of skin cancer I have two boys one 24 and second 19.

Aug 31, 2012
What to do
by: Anonymous

This seems like an old blog..but it has been two years since my husband 29 died of cancer. I have a five year old son and I am getting remarried this winter. I love my fiance very much but I still miss my husband terribly. Will I ever get over the hurt and loss of my first love? I wish the pain would go away forever but when I think about true love, I think about my husband who died.

What should I do?

Nov 13, 2009
I share your loss
by: rhonda Klein

My husband of 30 years died last week, 5 weeks after his diagnosis. He was being treated for bursitis with celebrex and vicodin, but was eventually rushed by ambulance to the hospital when he kept getting worse and eventually couldn't walk. He was soon diagnosed with stage 4 metastatic cancer which had spread throughout.

I know how you feel, as the hospital visit was so quick that he never even made it to cancer treatment due to the necessary prerequisites. I was never prepared to face everything alone. He was my strongest supporter, my best friend, my everything, and now it's gone. I am not sure I know how to do this alone; but, I have recently entered a bereavement group and have found that like you, I am not alone in my despair. That helps. I wish you peace.

Nov 02, 2009
I'm so sorry
by: Gloria

I just read your story. I want to tell you that I am so sorry. I understand exactly how you feel. I wish there was more I could say to help.

It may help you to have written your story here. You can come back and read it from time to time. Others, like me, may leave you a comment.

It is such a shock and horror when this happens. I really do understand. It's been 16 months for me, and I am still right here.

Come by and visit my story if you like,

"It's Too Late"


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