My Loving Big Brother Richard June 12, 1946 - May 28, 2010

by Louise
(New Jersey)

Hey Chard.

I miss you something awful. The pain of losing you hurts so, so much. Sometimes, I'm ok, and then the grief just overtakes me. Even though we didn't see each other often, I still miss you so much.

That dreaded pancreatic cancer took you away from us so fast. You'd been suffering from some kind of pain in your legs for a long time. There were test results in your apartment to prove that something had been wrong. Still those tests were all negative. How? When your body was riddled with cancer, could all tests be negative for cancer?

Because you were never a complainer, you didn't even want your loving lady Sadie to the family that you were suffering and needed help until it got too much for you two to bear alone.

You had a liver biopsy on April 7th, and during that week, due to the tumors on your spine, you lost your ability to walk and was hospitalized on April 13th. You left the hospital and went to a nursing home on April 29th and you passed away on May 28th.

I grew to know so much more about you from March through May than I did in all of my 60 years. I'm so grateful to have spent those last few hours with you on Thursday, when you'd look deeply into my eyes as we held hands. You passed away peacefully in your sleep Friday morning at 4:05AM. I miss you and will love you forever. I'll always remember and do what you'd say to me, "take care of yourself".

Love ya, Lou.....

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Jul 30, 2010
My Baby Brother Norman 1946-June 18, 2010
by: Suzanne

My heart grieves with yours, I too lost my only sibling a brother, the day after my birthday, June 18, 2010, he had just turned 61 on April 3, 2010. It is a terrible loss. I was the oldest, 4 years and I was suppose to take care of him, this is what our parents had always said and I could not. The good part is we always were close and never did have any bad feeling between us. He was my protector, we had a special bond. There are no two brothers and sisters relationship alike because we are all different, but the love we shared and the hurt we feel is the same. This is the worst thing that has ever happened to me. I always had him to lean on. We learn so much after the fact and even after learning there is not anything that any of us could have done.

Jul 13, 2010
by: Anonymous

I lost my 27 year old son Cody on May 21, 2010. I know the pain you are in and want you to know that my thoughts and prayers are with you.

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