My Maine Coon Princess Ashley

by Nadine
(Perris, CA, USA)

I got Ashley from the local shelter when she was about 4 weeks old. I remember how small she looked in that big cage all by herself. She took to me right away. She loved to be held and would often try to nurse from my blouse. She was the first of nine cats we would eventually own. I intended her to be the only cat in our household but my husband said she needed a playmate and brought home 2 other kittens. Then another and so on. I told him to stop but accepted the others also. Ashley didn't always get along with them and i believe she would have been happier with just 1 or 2 others. When she was about 2 months old i let her outside part of the time. She loved going outside and later would scratch at the door or cry to be let out. At first she hung around the house pretty much but as time went on she wondered off some. She was spayed but still wondered. We live near some open fields and though we never saw her go there we believed she did because we found a couple of Kangaroo rats i believe they are called in our back yard recently. She would never be gone more than a couple of days, maybe 3 at the most. So when she was last seen on May 25, 2013 i didn't panic right away. As the days went on i became worried something had happened to her. We searched our neighborhood and the local animal shelters for her. It has now been 9 days since we saw her and i fear greatly this time something really did happen to her. I feel like i really have lost her and grieve greatly. I am depressed now and have trouble paying attention to the other cats. All i can think about is Ashley. I blame myself for letting her outside to begin with but i don't think she would have been happy inside after exploring the outside. I can't stop wondering what happened to her and if she suffered. I am sad and angry now and have trouble controlling my emotions especially when working and can't sleep. She was 3 yrs old.

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Jun 06, 2013
My Maine Coon, Ashley
by: Nadine Roundtree

Sorry, i meant to tell Doreen about our parakeet since she mentioned her Cockatiels.

Jun 06, 2013
My Maine Coon, Princess Ashley
by: Nadine Roundtree

Dear Doreen and Veronica, thank you for you words of encouragement. They are greatly appreciated. I am doing a little better though i still carry a lot of guilt that i didn't look after Ashley enough, maybe got too busy with work and other things. I took it for granted she would be ok outside and always come home. Anyway, Veronica, i was thinking how when i was a child we had a parakeet named Weegee. My dad taught her to talk and hop around on things. One day, we forgot to close her cage and left our front door open and before we knew it she was out the door and gone. I think that was the only time i ever saw my dad cry. He was sad though he didn't want to show it. I have never forgotten that incident.

Jun 06, 2013
Don't give up!
by: Veronica


I know it's been tough but don't give up on her, she may be with one of the neighbors that don't have cats. One of my cats left after her litter grew up and I discovered my neighbor three doors down had taken her in. Before you give up all hope check with your neighbors and look in the field again, perhaps she has just found a comfy place of her own.

I truly hope that I am right.

Jun 05, 2013
My Maine Coon Princess Ashley
by: Doreen U.K.

Nadine I am sorry for your loss of your cat. You let her out for the right reasons. You had her best interests at heart. Here in England one mother let her 5yr. old daughter out to play and she was murdered. We will all live with some regrets over the many decisions we have to make each day. It is a horrible pain to bear. I had a lovely white bird visit us just before my husband received his diagnosis of terminal cancer. That bird stayed wit us for 4yrs. 3yrs. of the cancer journey and 1yr. after he died. I miss him. he was such a comfort. I wonder if he is O.K.
I had 7 Cockatiel birds which became 11 when 4 babies were born. We lost some when they flew out of the cage when I was cleaning. I was heartbroken for days. I then decided to put the birds in an Aviary where they would have better space and be cared for. I miss them so much but happy I had the experience to love them and care for them. It gave me a deeper bond and love for animals. I know how you feel. It is so easy to think the worst. But just say a prayer for him and his safety and Give him to God to Protect him wherever he is and if God could send him back to you Please if this is possible. I hope you get your cat back and if not I hope he is safe wherever he is.

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