My Mom Died On Thanksgiving Monday

Her name was Eleanor. She was not a saint or a perfect person as others seem to want to paint her just because she died. She was just my Mom. We spent more time together in the last year than anytime before. I just feel this sense of reality and unreality. I know she's dead but at times I still can't believe it. I asked myself one time if this was a dream. Her death was rather unexpected even though she was 82. She just seemed to be doing so well. She seemed pretty happy.

She had adjusted to her new living quarters in a seniors place and that took some time but she did it and she had come through a lot of adjustment like my dad dying.

Then "whoosh" my sister calls and says mom is in the hospital because of a mild heart attack. Even in the hospital where she was transported she was completely lucid and eating quite well. When the doctors spelled out to us that her heart was completely shot on both sides she still seemed to be eating and talking normally and she even was physically able to help the nurse with a spongebath.

It just seemed so weird that this person was dying. These were very unexpected things. I just didn't understand how normal she seemed until later when she lapsed into a sleep and then her body began to shut down. She wasn't in pain at all thanks to the drugs. Thank God. I guess I just don't understand how quickly it all happened. How can my mom be dead. How do I go on without this person in my life? She loved me when others judged me. She loved me. I just feel so sad.

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Dec 04, 2012
my mom died this year too
by: Angel

When our parents die, they are the last people on earth who truly love us unconditionally. It leaves a big hole in our lives that can never be filled by anyone else. I guess we just have to go on with what they gave us: all the lessons they taught us by how they lived and how they loved us. And the lesson of how they accepted death with their love intact. They have been such a blessing. We are so fortunate to have had good mothers. It's very humbling how quickly life can end. God will hold them in his arms until we can be there too. I am so sorry for your loss. I feel it too. Blessings to you and yours.

Oct 29, 2010
God Bless You
by: Anonymous

May God bless you. I'm so sorry for your loss. My mom and I were close too and while so many people in my life hurt me and judged me, she just loved me. I miss her so much. Yesterday was her first birthday in heaven. I released two balloons with a note attached to one for her. You and I will get through this pain or learn to live with it without our mothers. We will see our mothers again. We will go on with our lives until God is ready for us to join Him and our mothers. Until that day, we have many memories of our mothers.

Oct 28, 2010
Unconditional Love

The Love that you speak of is unconditional Love and it is rare and wonderful generally between parent and child I imagine as others haven't the great deal of patience or Love to Love another regardless over and over for a life time as your mother did you. I too Miss my Mother and Father I was close but not best buddys as I see sometimes between parent and child. I wish you no guilt just the Love that she felt for you.
That will cross the heavens and earth to let you know she loves and misses you too. I Hope that you will be able to live your life and make not just her proud but you as well. My very best to you...


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