My Mom was so incredible. Unconditionally loving always.

by MartiLynne
(Zimmerman, Minnesota)

Hi, Well I recently lost my mom. She was 71 years old. I knew when she got sick that her death would be something that would take me forever to get over. She was my mentor, my best friend, my confidant, my hero. I cannot remember a time in my life when I could not talk with her no matter what the topic and always feel blessed to have her. She always made me look at myself honestly.

I was very blessed to spend her last days by her bedside and talk, laugh and cry with her. My last night with her, I was sleeping on the couch next to her when I heard her call out my name. It woke me out of a dead sleep. I yelled out "Mom". But she was asleep. See, she had not been able to talk since the day before. The same night before this happened. I had all the grandchildren talk to her on the phone and tell her whatever they needed to. She could not respond, but I know she heard them.

After she called out my name I could not sleep. So I sat next to her on the bed and started telling her how much i loved her and that it was okay for her to go be with God. Shortly after that her breathing began to slow down. I called my sister I was afraid to have her die with just me alone and dad was asleep. Shortly after my sister arrived my dad got up. I said, Dad it is time. So me and my sister went outside and she died holding my dads hand. Beautiful way to go. I miss her so much it hurts me to even talk out loud about it. I do not feel like anyone truly can understand what it is like to lose someone so close unless they have experienced it themselves so i find difficulty in letting out my emotions. Thank you for this site.

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Jul 14, 2014
Thank you
by: Martilynne

I just want to thank the people who have commented on this website. I appreciate it so much so hard to talk about it. Thanks

Jun 27, 2014
Call my name
by: Anonymous

So strange to hear you say that you heard your mom call your name before she died. My mom died June 10, 2014 and hadn't been able to talk the last month. She was in a nursing home 10 miles away from me. The night before she died, I was in bed and woke up to my moms voice calling out "Pat". I was afraid the phone would ring at anytime telling me she was gone. But the call didn't come until the next morning. In the meantime we spent a wonderful day listening to old songs I downloaded on my phone and I was dancing. I am missing her so much. Still haven't had the "breakdown" I need, but I am sure it is coming!

Jun 23, 2014
My Mom was so incredible. Unconditionally loving always
by: Doreen UK

Marti Lynne I am sorry for your loss of your mom. That was a good thing you did to let your dad have those precious last moments with your mother before she died.
It takes a long time to get over the loss of a mother. My mother died 11yrs ago and it has taken me 9yrs. to be able to heal from the loss of her. I just lost my husband of 44yrs. to cancer 2yrs. ago and it will take me forever to heal from this loss. I couldn't function for 6 months. I still only take ONE DAY AT A TIME. When we lose our family members life becomes UNBEARABLE. Only God can come and comfort us from our loss and he puts people our way to help us through the journey of grief. This site heals us.

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