My mother died too young

I lost my mother, my best friend, on July 3rd, 2012. My mother was hospitalized and diagnosed with Stage 4 stomach cancer with metastasis April 2012. "This is bad, there is nothing we can do" Those are the dreaded words we heard from the doctors. We took my mother home May 4th, my birthday. I cared for her 24/7, until she took her last breath. She was 53 years old. The saddest part is that she continued to have hope and appeared to have no idea that her time was coming so soon. I am 29 and totally lost without her. I am devastated and barely functioning. Everything happened so quick. My brother is only 21 and just as devastated as me. I struggle with the idea that this will get easier with time. My mother was such a huge part of my life and now she's gone.

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Sep 29, 2012
Mother died too young.
by: Anonymous

I am sorry about your loss. I lost my own mother. She suffered from melanoma, breast cancer, and then the cancer spread to the kidney, so it was removed.She never told me she was terminally ill, but I thought she probably was. She visited me in October 2009 and told me she thought she didn't have long to live. I didn't want to think that she would not live long, but then she passed away Dec 5, 2009. I still miss her though the pain is not as much now. She was only 64, and I wish she could have lived as long as my grandmother who lived until she was 84 years old. I know how you feel. It is though you were cheated out of the years you could have spent with your mother. The only thing you can do is remember the good times you had with her and hope there is an afterlife where you can see her again someday.
I still have a voice recording of my mother singing "Happy Birthday" and some ecards for different holidays, and email messages from her. Every once in awhile I go back to those to remember her.

Jul 22, 2012
My mother died too young
by: Dee U.K.

Dear brokenhearted, I am sorry for your loss of your mother to cancer.
My husband got the dreaded news on 28th March 2009 that he had a rare and serious form of lung cancer called MESOTHELIOMA. It was inoperable, incurable, and aggressive. Steve then had a lung biopsy to confirm this lung disease was caused by working with Asbestos. It takes between 40-60yrs to develop. It is a very deadly and painful cancer. I nursed Steve for 3yrs.39days. He had hope also. Prayer all over America and he had signs of a miracle. Then he went downhill. He was ill throughout the whole 3yrs.39days. he had no quality of life. We were married 44yrs. Steve was 65yrs. Worked his whole life to enjoy his retirement and then he died on 5th May 2012 which is 10 weeks ago yesterday.
I am devastated. I have further grief now because of my husbands family. We are being persecuted because I mentioned the word Cremation. Which is what Steve wanted. The family came over to plead for me to give Steve a burial because of their beliefs. Steve was afraid of waking up in his casket. Anyway It was always my intentions to honour his family and respect them. So I gave Steve a burial. Now 2 nieces have mounted a hate campaign because I mentioned the word Cremation and Steve would never have mentioned this. There is a very unhealthy interference into our lives. My husbands brother(the 2 nieces father) went to Steve's grave. Got all our birthday balloons and flowers removed saying he was the father. He intimidated Grave staff remove everything. He also went to my daughters workplace and ranted and raved. "Don't you even clean your father's grave or care. He didn't have control. We did and the family are angry. Steve couldn't be buried for 20 days. He had to have an inquest because he died of an industrial disease. The 2 nieces are harassing us and even going as far as Canada to get information about the video my niece on my side of the family put up of Steve's life as told by her father because it stated Steve ate bacon. We are now waiting for a harassment order to be delivered but the police are taking their time because they are too busy. I am worried for my daughter's life. Let's hope there isn't another death for me to deal with.

Jul 22, 2012
With sympathy
by: Anonymous

Hey, my mom passed away 5 months ago, I am 28 and my mom 57. I cared for her every day. She had lung cancer with very painful bone metastases. She was officially staged as stage 4 in November 2011 and she passed away in February. She also had hope and thought she was going to get past it despite all the pain. I really don't know what to say because in some ways it gets easier, in the sense maybe that I don't cry all the time now, although people continue to say really stupid things to try to "help" with grief as if they actually understand. My mother in law always says the wrong things and I can't stand her. She's never lost anybody. It just hurts so UVB and I'm not sure it will ever go away. I just know that I promised my mom that I would try to live the life that she had hoped for me to live. Nim having difficulty doing that at the moment because I feel like my father is more controlling of me now and so are other people. Sorry this was a bit of a ramble. I feel for you, and know that you are not alone.

Jul 22, 2012
I Miss My Mom
by: Anonymous

My precious Mommy died July 5, after a four month battle with cancer. She was only 61. They told her she would not live long, but she had hope that the beliefs she held all her life would sustain her through eternity. She died holding my brother's hands and my father and me at her bedside. She looked peaceful. I miss her so much.I am so sorry for your losses. I wish I could hug each of you.

Jul 21, 2012
I feel for you.
by: Carly

You told my story. My mom was diagnosed in April and died May 19th, stage 4, untreatable lung cancer. she had hope until the day before she died when some stupid nurse told her there were changes in her body and it was going to be soon. She died the next day.

My heart goes out to you. My mom was 67 and I'm 46, so I have had the benefit of more time with my mom.

I don't know that it gets easier. I can't imagine it getting easier. I guess we just will be able to better control the tears?

*hugs* and more *hugs*

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