My Mother, My Friend

by RaDonna
(Springfield, MO)

My Beautiful Mother - Photo taken my husband

My Beautiful Mother - Photo taken my husband

We lost our precious mother on June 8th of 2013. She was 78 years young. She lived the last year with my husband and I. We did just about everything together. I’ve had a really hard time getting over her loss, so recently I wrote a letter to her about the things that may have been unsaid and how much I admired her and loved her. In the letter I also released her to her heavenly home. It was so cleansing and healing to write it to her and read it out loud. I am finally healing and able to move on. I still have a way to go on the healing process, but I feel much better now.

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Feb 13, 2014
Thank you Doreen
by: RaDonna

Thanks for your beautiful comments. So sorry for your loss. It is so hard to let go, but we have to realize our loved ones belong to our Heavenly Father.

Feb 13, 2014
My Mother, My Friend
by: Doreen UK

RaDonna I am sorry for your loss of your mother. Healing from grief is such a slow process. Just when we think we are moving forward in our grief we can regress and this can be worrying. But such is the nature of grief. WE will all move forward in time.
You did the most amazing step in writing a letter to your mother expressing your thankfulness for her and also releasing her from the earth to her heavenly home.
I learned this procedure in my own counselling experience several years ago. Creative writing is Healing from our grief much the same as doing this on this site.
I kept a journal and wrote out all my hurt feelings of losing my husband and what his life meant to me and how much I miss him and feel lost without him. This is also a good way when we feel stuck, and even numb. Writing somehow can bring things to the surface and is good when they come out of our system so we heal.
I held on to my husband so tightly when he was dying of cancer. I just couldn't let him go. When I knew God was not going to heal his cancer. I then released him to God and he died 8 hours later. I also felt a release of the stress and panic of losing him. God then taught me not to hold on to anything tightly because He can prize it from my hand at any time since He owns it all. That was a valuable lesson for me. I try to now hold everything loosely. Even my children since they also belong to God and I am thankful for the joy of having them in my life.
Writing this way is a very therapeutic exercise and can work for all those people also hurt by someone in their life and they can't put it right so they suffer agony each day. Keeping a journal and writing a letter to the person who hurt them will help them immensely move forward and release them from anger, hate, frustration, and fear and many can reclaim their lives back.
Thank you for your post which was a Blessing and May God comfort you in your grief journey and give you His Peace.

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