My mother, our rock, my best friend

by Lisa
(Jacksonville, FL)

My mom died on July 22nd 2013 at 2:10pm. She had finally moved out of her house and into a senior independent living apartment at the age of 81, looking and acting like a 65 year old. For 2 weeks she decorated her new home and made it "hers". We were so looking forward to this next chapter. She became ill rather suddenly and ended up on life support for 5 days. We terminated it as per her wishes on the 5th day. My heart aches and I cry every night. I miss our talks every evening, our "girl days", and our family dinners on Sundays. I JUST MISS HER! I have no regrets as I know that she knew how much she was loved and adored by us and many more. I am just struggling in the fact that she is not here. Thank you for this forum to allow me to vent and advice is much accepted! Prayers and thoughts are with you all.

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Oct 29, 2013
not doing well
by: Lisa

Each day after my post is getting harder...I am crying every single night, wishing just to converse with her one more time. The work after her death is pretty much taken care of so now I see things, hear things and wish she were here with me. Crazy but real. So now my emotions are overwhelmed and feel panicked at times. Someone told me "your life will never be the same". I POO POO d at it, but she was so right.

Oct 19, 2013
Dear Lisa
by: Anonymous

I am sorry for your loss. I lost my 81 year old father in January. He also looked/acted much, much younger than he was, and he seemed perfectly healthy. He collapsed and died due to Sudden Cardiac Arrest. We had so many great things to look forward to this year....he enjoyed watching my kids sporting events, being outdoors when the weather got nice, going to the beach with us.....he didn't get a chance to do any of it this year. It is a very tough road, but this website is full of wonderful, supportive people who are all trying to heal. I hope you find some comfort here, and know that you are not alone. Peace to you, Barb

Oct 17, 2013
to Doreen
by: Lisa

Thank you Doreen for your thoughts and wisdom. I am sorry you are grieving the loss of your husband. As I am crying once again, I am thinking of you and others who are in the same place. I wish you the best, you are young and still can move forward.

Oct 17, 2013
My mother, our rock, my best friend
by: Doreen UK

Lisa I am sorry for your loss of your mother suddenly. It hurts so much when a close loved one dies. It is like no other pain. Your mother you say was 81 but acted like 65. I am 65yrs. and feel like 81 since grieving the loss of my husband to cancer 17 months ago. I am probably one of these persons who is coping emotionally, but the pain is all felt physically. I can't seem to shake off the physical weakness and illness all these months. If you can cry this is good because this is good grief. It is when you can't cry that one has to worry. Crying will only last as long as it needs to and then the crying will get less as you heal from your loss. Even if time is a healer it hurts to not have our loved one in our life again. The best way to cope with grief is ONE DAY AT A TIME. I hope you have better days ahead and have supportive family to help you through your loss. It does help.

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