My mum passed away 18th July 12

My mum was a young 78 years of age. But looked 10 years younger. She was diagnosed with ovarian cancer 7 years ago. She had surgery to remove tumours and full hysterectomy. Unfortunately the cancer came back. She was in pain but it was relieved slightly through medication. She died suddenly last week after feeling nauseous,, tired and constipated for a few days. Less than 48 hours later she died. I was with her for her last hours. I feel numb, angry, sick, helpless, drained, sad, confused. Nothing feels real and I feel like I am going through the motions of everyday life without any purpose.

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Jul 31, 2012
mum passed away
by: Anonymous

sorry for your loss, i know exactly what you are going through as my mum passed away on the 11th july 2012 and like your mum she was a young 77 year old who also looked 10 years younger. she was diagnosed with a cervical tumour in march 2011 and went through radiotherapy and chemotherapy throughout the year, but the illness took its toll on her and she deterioated from xmas 2011. we hoped and prayed that the treatment would cure her, but sadly it wasnt meant to be. like you i was with her right to the end but i cannot get her face out of my mind as she was in hospital and was in so much pain and distress before she died. I also feel numb,angry,sad and have lost interest in everything around me. I am just trying to get through each day as it comes, and tell myself she is in a better place and re-united with my dad.

Jul 25, 2012
My mum passed away 18th July 12
by: Doreen U.K.

Dear Anonymous. I am sorry for your loss of you mum to ovarian cancer.
My huband died 10 weeks ago of a deadly cancer caused by working with asbestos. It is a very painfull road to travel with the unbearable pain of grief.
You covered it well for all of us. Feeling Sick, sad, confused, angry, helpless, numb, and drained.
Grief will leave you feeling very drained. It is something that happens naturally to us. Not something we choose. We have to go through these motions one day at a time. Even this is HELL. You wonder how you will cope each day and when you will be done with the grief. Grief is different for each one of us. Time is all we have. Days of LONLINESS. EMPTINESS. SORROW. In the weeks to follow will new memories invade. Some good some bad. We can't choose which memories to have and not have. It is as if our memory is unwinding automatically and what comes out is what we experience. When memories come out then perhaps we won't have to remember this anymore. WE then get to choose what memories we want to keep and hold onto.
It will take a long time to get back into life. I can't enjoy TV. going out. cooking. having a meal. going out for a meal. Shopping etc. It seems to be done in a state of de ja vue. 10 weeks later it all feels so unreal. As if it didn't happen. WE just go on. Because we have to. I don't know when I will be able to descend from my plastic bubble of grief. I am locked in here till I can come out and feel normal again, and be able to function in the REAL WORLD. Our world has been turned upside down with loss. I hope that you will be able to have the support of family and friends at this difficult time. this will help you greatly through your grief. If not go and see a grief counsellor who will support you through your pain.

Jul 24, 2012
So sorry for your loss
by: Anonymous

I lost my mom to ovarian caner on June 12 and still feel the same way you do. I was fortunate to live close to my mom so I saw her everyday. She was diagnosed over 3 yrs ago and underwent a radical hysterectomy. She began collecting fluid in her lungs and was going to have a catheter put in to drain one of her lungs. Unfortunately, they needed to do a chest tube which caused her considerable pain and she passed away two days later. I'm still in shock and cry everyday. I have lost loved ones in the past, but this is by far the most painful. I can't imagine my life ever going back to the way it was, but I remain hopeful. Best of luck to you and know that there are others out there they feel the same pain.

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