My Mum

by Kim Bond
(Northern Ireland)

On 19th October 2011, my mum passed away. She had been knocked down while out walking the dog. My dad went up to see her but he knew that she was gone. The dog however was fine. I was absolutely devastated and my brother was angry. Relations and friends were saddened by the loss of my mum and couldn’t believe that this had happened to such a kind and caring person. A great amount of people supported us through this tough time and with their help my mum got a truly wonderful send off and everyone was able to say goodbye in their own special way. My mum was 56 years old. It was really hard on my 21st birthday which was on 12th April this year as we share the same birthday so my mum would of been 57 this on the same date. It's still really hard without her and I still remember that night so well. It was dark and raining. It was put down down an accidental death. But I feel like it wasn't her time to go.

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Aug 20, 2012
My Mum
by: Doreen U.K.

Kim I am sorry for your loss of your Mum prematurely. An accident is such, but some are preventable with due care and attention. You could be right that you feel it was not her time to go. She was still young. My husband died of cancer 3 months ago and he was 65yrs. and I feel that this is young. I felt that he had more years because his parents died in their 80's and Steve's 2 brothers are in their late 70's. Steve's cancer takes between 40-60years to develop since it is as deadly cancer caused by working with asbestos. I asked God for healing but this did not happen. Steve actually lasted longer than we thought with an aggressive cancer. 3yrs.39days. I wish it could have been 50yrs. it took to develope so that Steve could have had some quality time to enjoy his retirement. He went from 47yrs working life, to cancer, to death 16 days before his 66th birthday. Kim losing a parent is hard because of all the interaction and care provided. A special bond is developed from this so it is a great loss. A loss that is so very painfull and will take a long time to live with. Especially hard at special times of the year. Birthdays, Christmas, Anniversaries. All to be replaced with now a Death Anniversary that is going to be difficult for all of us going through a loss. I hope that you will have better days ahead. That you will deal with your grief how you need to and that you won't be told by insensitive people when to stop grieving. Grief is ongoing till you know you are in a more comfortable place. Anger and crying are all stages of grief so let your brother deal with his anger. It won't last.

Aug 19, 2012
by: Federico

How I understand you, Kim. My Mum passed away last september 29. Everything was more and more wrong. Our lives changed so. but experience teaches only Time can recover us from grief. Your Mum, was too young to die. I only can give you a little support in this terrible days. I need it 8 months, and still I'm not the same, but step-by-step, I'm growing from zero. I hope you'll be soon in a better way. Best regards from an unknown who knows what's a Big loose.

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