My new boyfriend

My new boyfriend when I first met him told me he loved me and he was so nice and kind and loving. After six months he told me that although he still loved me he could not love me in the way I wanted him too. He could no longer make love to me as all he could think about was his last lover who he thought was his soulmate. He still wants me to be there for him and he is always there for me, but how can I get through to him that he has to let go of the previous relationship and enjoy us in our new relationship. His last relationship was over 5 years ago.

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Jan 17, 2012
Toughen up...
by: Judith in California

Toughen up girl! You must not allow him to use you. He wants you there to be able to use in case his current love isn't available. Don't allow this. IF you do he will never have to mature and make up his mind. You must ask yourself "Why do I want to be with someone who will never love me theway I need them to"?

If you continue with him then you'll get what you feel you deserve...nothing.

Jan 16, 2012
by: Anonymous

Yes I know you are right but I cant stop loving him. I have tried several times but just keep going back. He is so kind and he says he doesnt want anybody else apart from me to be his companion for the rest of his life. He has been honest and truthful but its so sad he cant let go.

Jan 16, 2012
Please Consider This
by: Judith in California

Dear, it will never work as long as he is still thinking of her. Don't play second fiddle to anyone. That is when you lose your self respect. He was being kind to tell you, so let him go. If you try to hang on and beg him to stay you'll only be hurt and sad most of the time. Never involve yourself with someone who isn't emotionally ready and available for a relationship. Otherwise you'll be wasting your time and life. Enjoy your youth and have fun. Get your education first and become all you can be. You'll have time for a serious relationship later.

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