My only sibling murdered, now I'm all alone.

by Sophia Grace

Hello, my name is Sophia and I am online today trying to find some kind of help on dealing with my sister's murder. It's been 8 years since her boyfriend took her life and no, it does not get better in time nor does the pain go away. It feels as new to me as the day I got that call. It has left me a really messed up person and it's affecting my life. I was blessed last year with a wonderful husband who knew what I was dealing with and understood. Now I think I might be mistreating him because of my cold-hearted nature. I thought I got over that anger phase, it's returned once again. I don't know what to do. Talking about it doesn't help. Will I ever be happy again?

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Mar 31, 2013
The same situation happened to me. You are not alone.
by: Anonymous

Sophia, I understand how you feel. My only sibling and sister was also murdered last year and I honestly do not know how to handle this. She was my best friend and my other half in life. I pray that over time the pain will heal.

Feb 19, 2013
My only sibling murdered, now I'm all alone
by: Doreen U.K.

Sophia YES! You will be Happy again. First thing to do is to find a way to get some good counselling. This is vital to your well being and also to your marriage. It is not fair what you are going through. It is also not good for your marriage for your husband to share this ongoing grief. He may feel O.K. to do so in support to you but it will catch up with both later and complicate things perhaps causing more unnecessary problems that you don't need at this time.
I have done the counselling bit and so know of the great benefits. You owe it to your self and to your husband if you want your life to improve. Sadly ANGER is a part of grief and when everything is so mixed up we can't sort it out. A counsellor is trained to deal with this area and get you back on track. You will find your way back one day. You will never forget your sister. But you will not have to deal with the pain and anger. 8 years is a long time to be still in the same place with your grief. This is a warning sign that you need Help. Please go and get the support you need. I can't bear to hear of people suffering greatly when I know how they can be benefitted through counselling. You will get your life back. You have a husband. Someone to care for you. Don't lose him. I lost my husband of 44yrs. to cancer 10 months ago and My heart HURTS. I don't want yours to hurt when you could feel better in time.

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