My sister Barb died. Why didn't she call me to come over?

by Tammie

My sister Barb died on April 6th, 2012. I was working at the bank where I work when I got a text message from her husband saying....Tammie call me emergency. She usually used his phone but I had a bad feeling that it wasn't her because she never called me tammie when texting, it was tam. so i was finally able to have him call me....that's when he told me she was gone....44 yrs old. No one knew what happened. My boss called my husband at work, he came and got me. while he was on the way, i called my aunt jean. She was in cape may nj, she started to scream on the phone....scream. she said...WHAT!!!! WHAT!!!! WHAT!!!!...SHE came back up here right away. because her, her daughter, little jeannie (my cousin) and me had to tell my mom.....Big Barb. so no one knew what happened, ...i kind of knew i thought....drugs....then the next night when my brother in law had to go to supermarket to get food...i went around their house looking everywhere.....for I did not know what.....something, anything, to give me a clue!!! what happened to her, what happened???? somebody tell me, tell me what happened...i FOUND an empty vodka bottle in her brother in law says that when he came home from work at like 8 that morning that he found her in the bathroom on the floor...and that he tried to give her mouth to mouth, ofcourse calling 911 first....I WASN'T THERE, I DON'T KNOW WHAT HAPPENED, I HAVE TO SEE WHAT HAPPENED!!!! the night before, her drug friend was over their house.....stayed till between 12 and 1 am. I hear.....don't know what happened! that girl was the last person supposedly to see her alive.....autopsy results finally came in....overdose of alcohol and oxycondone 5's. Her husband admitted to all of us family the friday she died that he just got a bottle of percocets and gave her half which would be 60! what the hell does she need with 60 percs!!!!!!! THE SCRIPT WAS FILLED THE DAY BEFORE SHE DIED......oh my God, i can't believe she is gone....this is not happening....

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Jul 18, 2012
to Doreen UK
by: Tammie

Doreen, thank you so means the world that you can talk to others who understand and care. You know you are not the only one going through this, but when you really talk to them, it is comforting. What I meant by that question was, why didn't she call me? She had told one of the so called friends that she didn't want to be alone that night and for this friend to come over and the friend agreed, but had no my sister was suppose to go pick her up....she never showed up.....was wondering why if she didn't want to be alone, A-why would she call this person who was also into drugs, and B- why wouldn't she call or text me....I don't know....too many questions I will always have I guess, I'll work through them in time. Thanks again for caring.

Jul 18, 2012
My sister Barb died. Why didn't she call me to come over.
by: Doreen U.K.

Tammie I am sorry for the loss of your sister. A sister is so hard to live without. My heart goes out to you at this difficult time of grief and sorrow. We go on in life day to day not realizing what a new day will bring. We still have to go on living and planning with the hope that we will live long enough to execute those plans.
Life is unpredicatable. This sudden death will leave you in limbo. Numb and not being able to face the reality of your loss.
If you find life difficult and unbearable. go and see a bereavement counsellor who will help you to work through your loss.
It is the difficulty you have to live with wondering why your sister did not call you? Perhaps she was not able to. She may have suffered a sudden death in which there would be no time for any phone calls or contact with anyone. This is the hard part with no answers.
I hope that you will be able to feel better in the days ahead.

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