my sisters gone and I can't fill the space left from her death

My older sister passed away on the 21st January and ever since I've just felt empty, she was only 28 and we went on a night out the day before had a really good laugh, but the next day she was gone its been eating at me ever since thinking about it I had woken up early and in a really good mood which isn't normal for me after a night in town got in a bath when my brother started to shout me saying I best get out she had died I didn't know what to do I walked to the shop hoping he was playing some sick joke with me trying to get my head round it so I tried calling her phone, there was no answer which is when it hit me I broke down in the middle of the shop and it keeps happening ever since. I don't know what to do I miss her more every month that goes plus her birthday is in a few days I know I'm ment to be strong as I am now the eldest but its hard when she was the one who always looked after me miss her so much. R.I.P Jenny xxxxx

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Feb 03, 2013
by: c. wochna

My sister passed away this past June of fatty liver disease. None of us knew she had it or had any idea there was a problem until a week before when she started feeling really bad. I cried and cried. At times, I got on my riding lawn mower and screamed, "why her", "why now".
Our bodies and minds are amazing at how it heals us from these unexpected events in life. My psychiatrist tells me there's no time limit on grief. Cry when you need to, smile when you think about the good times. There will be good days and not so good days, but we do come out of it. And when we do, I believe we have more compassion for others who are going through the same situation. Hang in there, things will get better.

Oct 08, 2012
my sister's gone and I can't fill the space left from her death.
by: Doreen U.K.

I am sorry for your loss of your sister Jenny to a sudden death. If you are finding it hard to cope with your loss of your sister a few sessions with a grief counsellor may help you with the stages of grief so that you will be able to move forward better from your grief.
We are never quite prepared to lose our siblings. We just go on from day to day enjoying life until something like this happens and claims the life of the one we love. Crying is a normal part of grief. Some of us who are older find this grief more difficult and cannot cry for some time so our Healing process will be longer.
You could start writing a journal of all the memories you had with your sister. You will have this forever. You will be able to grieve better. Write these memories whilst they are fresh in your mind. We lose a lot of our memories over time.
I hope that you have good family and friends to support you in your grief as this does help tremendously. I have this good support and it helps me get through each day better knowing someone is praying for me or even just thinking about me. You will feel fractured for some time but it won't last forever. At some point we all Heal to a degree from our loss. You don't have to try to be the strong one and carry the whole load. We all have our limitations. You also don't have to fill your sister's shoes otherwise you may not grieve well. Your sister was a unique person like you are. Just be yourself and don't take on anything too big that will harm you emotionally. It will just add to your grief.

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