My son Alan 26

by Ellen mclean
(Scotland)

Smashing son xxx

Smashing son xxx

My son Alan passed away 5yrs on wed 15th 2009 and it still feels so raw, he had a sore leg and was on his way to the hospital but he never made it, he dropped dead at the bus stop from a DVT , I only spoke to him a hour before it happen it devastated our whole family his 2 brothers Andrew and jack miss him big time, he's with me everyday , I had 3 boys so its a empty space when am with my 2 sons it never feels complete as Alan's not there he was a smashing son , I still put his name on cards and stuff but we,v got loads of memories

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Jan 17, 2014
My son Alan
by: Ellen McLean

Thanks Christine for sharing your loss , it's still very raw for you, my son stayed across the road from me I can look in his window and still hope I see him there, it's such a pain that does not leave you, some days I hide from the world, but getting there, god bless you x

Jan 16, 2014
my son alan
by: christine

It has been 14 months also that I lost my son. It to is so raw. I just wait for his return. His job would take him out of town, so you see unless I make myself remember he is gone, I just wait for him to come home. This way I don't have to live in constant heartache, because it hurts so much. God saw that he was getting tired and a cure was not to be. So He put His arms around him, and whispered, " come with me.' My son is safe and in no more pain. We will meet up again some day. God bless all of you.

Jan 16, 2014
Our sons
by: Kate

Thank you for responding. No one can take the place of that child,even if we have others. I was numb the first year and the second is harder it seems the numbness helped shield my heart. I went to a church group last night &3 there had lost children,one 20 yrs ago and she teared up as she said it. It never goes away,we miss them forever. I am trying to survive this terrible loss. I learn from others to go on. These posts help us somehow face it with ones who know. I couldn't go on alone because no one knows but those who have this loss. I'm grateful for those who share their pain,like you did and deeply sorry too that you know it. We are all hurting. May God give us strength.

Jan 15, 2014
My son Alan 26
by: Ellen McLean

Thanks Kate for sharing your loss with me, you never got over that there not with us, even when we,v got other children there all different , I felt numb the first year , but sharing is the key to some of the grieving so thanks x

Jan 14, 2014
Your son
by: Kate

I lost a son 14 months ago- how did a whole year go by and I survived it?! You are at 5 years and still in pain. We never will stop missing them. I had five children and when one dies the family is never the same again. So I understand you. I can't even think five years down the road,the right now is so hard on me. On all of us. I see your family hurts like this too. We share on here and know we are not alone in this painful walk. I'm sorry you lost your son at 26 so tragically . It surely seems unbelievable at first that they are gone. Then we try to adjust.
It is the hardest thing ever. My heart goes out to you .

Jan 14, 2014
My son Alan
by: Ellen

Thanks Doreen for your kind words, it's good to know am not alone , and am sorry for your loss, you just don't no what to say and what to feel, but my two sons help me to keep on going, x

Jan 14, 2014
My son Alan 26
by: Doreen UK

Ellen I am so sorry for your loss of your son Alan 5yrs ago to a sudden death. A DVT happens so suddenly like an aneurysm, and such a shock to the system to lose a loved one so suddenly. In 2009 was the year I got the worst news of my life. My husband was diagnosed with a deadly cancer that was terminal. My grief started then and I lost him 20 months ago. It is 5yrs. also for me from that day of diagnosis. I still have such bad day's with recurring memories of that day he drew his last breath. We just don't know what we are walking around with that could suddenly claim our lives at a moments notice. Life is more daunting today than it has ever been. It leaves one vulnerable and worried about other family members. I don't think we will ever recover from our loss. It may be many years before we heal from the rawness of this loss. To me to lose one of my 3 Adult children would crush me more than I could cope with. My heart goes out to all those mums and dads who have lost a child. You could try grief counselling for a few sessions. It may just be that you are stuck in grief and this help and support will help you to move forward from this raw grief.

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