My Son Gary

by Val

My son Gary was 41 when he passed away July 4th, 2011 and I am devastated. He lived with me for the past 10 years and we were so very close. He met the love of his life three years ago and he was finally going to have his own family as Mel has a 8 yr old son who Gary loved as his own. I keep asking why, why did he have to go, he was so loved. How do I go on, I have four daughters and one older son and altho I love them all dearly when you lose one it doesn't matter how many other kids you have they take a huge chunk of your heart with them.

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Aug 24, 2011
Gary Loves You
by: TrishJ

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband 9 months ago. I tend to sit and dwell on all the things he is missing out on....all the happiness he is being denied. We have three very young grandsons, two of which will probably not remember their grandfather.
It just seems so sad that when your son seemed to be the happiest ~ that is when his life ended.
We are all suffering on this web site. We have all lost loved ones. It feels like having a limb severed from our body and probably takes longer to heal from.
The love never dies. We always love them. We will always miss them. We just have to do the best we can to move on and keep their memory alive.
Hugs and blessings to you.

Aug 24, 2011
from California
by: Anonymous

I'm so sorry about your son....I wear the same ugly son died one year ago this month. He was only 23 and I loved him tremendously. At the one year mark I was surprised to see that I was still alive and had not died from the terrible grief I felt. A couple of things that have really helped me is the organization The Compassionate Friends and a facebook support group called Grieving Mothers. There are over 5000 of us moms on that site. It's a closed site so you can cry and vent and scream out your pain all you want. I feel your pain and I'll pray for you.

Aug 24, 2011
With love
by: StarbrightRuby

Hi Val

So sorry to hear about the death of your son. You are right, just because you have surviving children does not lessen the pain for the one who has died.

Sometimes it is difficult for us to understand the bigger picture of why we die. My understanding is that when we have completed what we came here to do, then we are ready to return to spirit.

Thank you for telling us of your grief - I am sending you and your family lots of love.

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