by Marge
(Silver Spring, MD)

My son, Philip, died on Feb. 10, 2012. He was 50 years old and at that time I was 78. I know I had him for 50 years, but it was not long enough. He was a wonderful son and I miss him so very much. Philip (many call him Phil) was a classical guitarist. He taught classical guitar at a local college. He played in the orchestra in many theaters here in the area where he lived. He not only played guitar, but also mandolin, harmonica and other string instruments. There are many CDs out there if you want to buy. I know many people lost an adult child at a much earlier age and I have great sympathy for them. A loss is sad at any age. I have an older son and a daughter (and their families), and we all miss him very much. He had a long time girlfriend and they were going to get married. I still keep in touch with her as she is a dear friend. Sharing my story on this website is very helpful. Today is extremely difficult as it is his birthday. Happy Birthday, Philip, miss you and love you. Love, Mom

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Dec 06, 2013
I am so sorry for your loss
by: Malgosia

My Michal, my only child was 30 when I lost him on june 30 2012, I can not say how you fell, we all hurt, but we all feel different .
I often hear, she lost little baby, this is really tragic, and I don't know how people can say that, loosing child at any age is unthinkable . We don't love our children less because they are not babes any more, if anything, we love them every day more and more. They are always our babes , if they are 1, 20, 60.. They are our children.. I am so sorry for you loosing your baby..

Dec 02, 2013
Your son
by: Marge

My dear sheela - what a tragic loss to lose a son at such a young age. I am so sorry. Losing a child at any age is very difficult, but 18 was so young. I am glad you have family support, but it is still difficult. I have been a widow for 15 years, and I know my son, Philip, is with his Dad. They were very close. I will remember you and your son in my prayers. Marge

Dec 02, 2013
let god give u strength
by: sheela

I can understand your loss and pain of your son philip. My son Hari who had TB meningities passed away on october 18th 2013 and he was just 23 years old. He is and was my baby boy and my life. Today i am in my late 40's, I am just dead with breath going in and out of me. My spirit and soul everything is gone. I have a daughter who is very loving and concerned about me and also a husband and of course my little sister who are all supportive. Even though they give me strength and support, I just listen but in my heart, I am dead, gone. I want my son back, to touch him,hug him, kiss him and feel him. I just hope God gives all of us to bear this type of loss which seems like a lifetime punishment.

Dec 01, 2013
My son, Phil
by: Marge

Thanks to Kate and Doreen for responding to my loss of my son, Phil. It is comforting to know others understand my loss, regardless of age. I feel for both of you on your loss. It is so difficult. Yesterday was Philip's birthday (he would have been 52) and I am a Facebook member and received so many "Likes" and Comments about him. I was so pleased to read so many kind thoughts and memories. I spent a good part of the day crying as I miss him so much. My daughter and family (they live in NC) sent me a beautiful floral arrangement. Phil loved his family. I am so pleased I discovered this website and find it very helpful. Thanks again and God bless you.

Nov 30, 2013
Your son
by: Kate

I lost my son at 39 and it doesn't matter the age, I'm 66 the pain is real and the loss overwhelming! We want them back!!
We know it can't be but the emotions we go through are real and it is so hard. My heart goes out to you. One year has somehow gone by for me and i don't know how I survived except by strength beyond my own. We on this site understand and share your feelings.

Nov 30, 2013
My Son, Philip
by: Doreen UK

Marge I am sorry for your loss of your Adult Son Phil. It doesn't matter how old our Adult children are. WE DON'T WANT TO LOSE THEM. Don't make a comparison or apologise for feeling the way you do. This was your Child. You wanted him to live. He had skills that could have benefited people who would be blessed by his music. this is another reason to grieve. What this loss has done to you personally, and for the contribution he made to life and the world for being here, which has now ended.
I hope that life gets easier for you and you get many more years of happiness with your family. God Bless You.

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