My Soulmate, My Best Friend, My Love

by Wendy
(Abington, PA)

Our First Wedding Anniversary

Our First Wedding Anniversary

The love of my life, Ronnie, was taken from me exactly 4 months ago today. He was only 49 years old, and excitedly planning his own 50th birthday party.

Ronnie was an amazing husband, father, brother, son and friend. We had been together for 13 years, but only just celebrated our first wedding anniversary 2 months before the accident.

He spoiled me rotten. We did everything together. We were never shopping, trips to the mall, movies with the kids. I feel like I took all that for granted, because to be honest, who ever thinks that "This" will ever happen to them.

We married late in life. At the time my children were 11 and 15, and he immediately loved them as his own. That's just how he was. And he had the most infectious smile and contagious laugh. He loved having fun, and enjoyed life to the fullest. I feel honored to have been his wife.

I miss you baby and will love you forever.

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Apr 14, 2014
Grieving my husband
by: Dawn

I loss my husband over a year now. The days seems to get harder then easier. A song, or a memory or anything that reminds me of him , I just start crying and crying.
He was my world , my everything, my husband, my soulmate, my lover . He had a twinkle in his eyes and he was always smiling. I was with him for 21 years and married for 17 years to a beautiful soul and a man with the heart of gold . I take one day at a time and I go to a support group to help me.
I miss him each and everyday. I talk to him ,to listen for his guidance in life.

Nov 19, 2013
Two Years Later Now.
by: Wendy

Dear Anonymous,

I haven't been to this site in awhile so I just saw your post today. I have been so sad the past few days that it brought me back here. I feel I should never have left the love an support I had through this website, and I abandoned those who could have used mine.

I guess it's fair to say I'm doing better. I guess it's all relative to what "better" is. I still feel lost...can't remember who I am without my Ronnie. Having trouble focusing, concentrating. I think I tried so hard to be strong for everyone else in the beginning, always telling everyone I was fine, that I did myself a great disservice. I grieved, but I did it alone in the solace of my bedroom. On the outside I guess I looked ok. But now that is coming back to haunt me, and no one seems to understand why I haven't moved on.

I go through the daily rituals of work, cooking, socializing, but on the inside I just feel numb.

I so appreciate your "checking in" on me. I don't know who you are so I don't know anything about your situation, but I hope you are ok.

One Breath, One Step, One Day at a Time.

May 15, 2013
Wendy who lost Ronnie
by: Anonymous

SO sorry for saying "dave" instead of Ronnie--I want to say that I hope you are doing better and feeling some happiness and joy since his passing.

May 15, 2013
For Wendy
by: Anonymous

I have read your post and I see in Jan 2012 it had been six months since you lost Dave. I have lost my husband and in a few days it will be 6 months since he died. I wonder how you are doing at this point in your journey? God Bless you--One who knows how you feel.

Feb 25, 2012
My Soulmate, My Bestfriend, My Love
by: Eunice

I know exactly, well, close to it how you feel. In the end of things, I don't think 2 people look at or go through grief the same way. I feel for your loss though and am sorry to hear of it. I too lost a very loving man, who was my best friend, my soulmate , and the love of my life. I just hit the 1 yr mark of losing him this past Nov. 21st. I still reside in the house we shared, alone. We had no children between us, but each had some of our own, and we shared our grand children. He was only 49 when he passed, and the 18th of March will be his birthday and I already dread it. There are times I think I'm doing pretty good, and then there are days I just can't function. Hopefully, in time you'll find peace of heart and mind as well. Getting in counseling as well as getting back into church has helped me a lot. All my best to you and yours.

Jan 13, 2012
Thank you all
by: Wendy

To all of you who have told me your stories, let me say that I too am sorry for your losses. We are all on this journey together, and it is so comforting to know that there are people out there listening and caring.

Family and friends want to help, but they just don't understand what it feels like to be where we are, so lost, alone, devastated and confused about how we will survive.

It is 6 months today since I lost the love of my life and to be honest, i never thought I would make it. It hasn't gotten easier gotten easier and I don't know if it ever will. The term I keep hearing is "The new normal". Not really happy with that either.

But thank you all so much for your words and encouragement while you are all dealing with the same pain. Finding this site was truly a blessing.

Love, peace and comfort to all of you. If any of you would like to reach out via email, I have connected with quite a few women and it is truly wonderful. My email is

Jan 13, 2012
My Soulmate, My Best Friend, My Love
by: Robin

I am so sorry for your loss. No one can truly understand until you experience it for yourself.
I lost my husband five months ago who was the love of my life, my soulmate and my best friend. We had also each been in a previous marriage and had found the kind of love that we all search for. We met in 2001 and married in 2004. We had everything,our love,each other.
I certainly don't have any answers or miracle cures for you but hold those precious memories and all that love close. Talk to Ronnie and listen to your heart for the answers. Continue
to visit this site and may you find less pain in your days ahead and more comfort.

Nov 21, 2011
I know how you feel
by: Audrey

Hi Wendy, my name is Audrey I wrote and spoke of my husband not long ago. It's titled "He is my Everything". I married young so we were married 30 years. He passed suddenly from a blood clot. I reached the one year mark on October 28th. The first year is very hard. Holidays can be rough. Last Thanksgiving was just barely a month after he passed, thought how am I going to do this. We have 4 grown children and grand babies too. So I knew I had to carry on. I spoke with a Medium on thanksgiving morning. She told me and the kids things no one could of known about. Told me things that I know he had to of really been telling her. I know many don't believe in that stuff. But it got us all through the holidays. Wanted to let you know of a site that has been helping me from the beginning. If you google "when my husband dies" by Corrine. You are able to speak to other widows going through everything you are. They really are great. I wish you the best! God bless! Audrey

Nov 19, 2011
Yes, I had that too...


I know what it means to have the Love of your life, I too was fortunate to have found mind after a disastrous marriage. I was not looking for Love and did not want another relationship. But when I met him it was...magic as though I had known him for along time. I resisted, but there was no getting away from the man that would become my "soul mate"

When I used that term I was teased by my brothers relentlessly. My Love died when he was 45 years old. It has been 2 years this December and I still Love and Miss him terribly.

Though this long journey of grief I have evolved into a different person. Certainly not by choice at first. It is a new life that I fought and refused to even consider. But with this new life, also came the obvious but difficult thought that no mater what the pain. I would not have had my life any other way.

I would want Paul in my life despite the fact that this grief is THE worst thing that I have ever gone through. I was so very blessed to have a man, a good man love me for 17 years. I was certainly nothing spectacular to look at but he thought me beautiful. He saw what was under the paper what the present actually was inside. He saw the beauty that I probably could not even see myself after such a horrible marriage that nearly destroyed who I was.

I can only hope that you continue to come here for support because this is the only place that truly understands and will really listen 24/7 without judgement. Please come here when you need an ear. And please remember out motto.
One breath one step at a time...

Nov 18, 2011
My Soulmate, My Bestfriend, My Love
by: JEC

I'm very sorry for your loss. I too lost my husband suddenly 4 months ago yesterday. We were together for 16 yrs, married for 15. Every day is a struggle, because even though I know he is gone it's still so hard to believe all of this has even happened. We have two children together that need their Dad...I need my husband! It makes no sense, and is so unfair. If you ever need someone to talk to feel free to let me know. I will keep you and your family in my prayers...and believe me, I pray now more than ever. The thought of the holidays coming up is the worst hurdle ahead of us now. (((big hugs)))

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