My Story- Patty and me

by Shawn C.
(Cumming, GA)

Mom on the Left in Maine

Mom on the Left in Maine

My mom had been battling stage 4 kidney cancer since June 2013. She lost that battle July 14, 2014. After a year of treatments, it was up and down with the prognosis. However, the evil disease won in the end. Every day, I wonder why. My mother was only 52 years old, in good health, ate organic, was a community advocate and volunteered wherever she could. She had multiple articles written about her in the local papers (not just obituaries) that mourned her death. She was the best mother and person in the world. She would LITERALLY give the clothes off her back to a stranger in need. I am guilty that I didn't spend as much time with her as my siblings before she got SICK sick. I have a career and was always working, too tired to drive all the way home. Now I would give anything to relive the past year to spend every last second with her. I didn't understand the severity of my mom's situation. Yet, I think she wanted it that way. She was beautiful, both inside and out. My friends in school always called her "the hot mom." Haha. But her beauty inside was what stood out to all that met her. She is my role model, my best friend. And now I am having a hard time imagining or even accepting that she is not just a phone call or Facebook post away. I don't know how I will be able to accept it. She was far too young and had much more to accomplish in her life. I cry every day and can't seem to pull myself together to really accept it.

I love you Mommy and will miss you until I can join you once again. I can't wait for the day I can hear your voice again.

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Aug 02, 2014
broken hearted
by: Shana

I am so sorry for your loss. I also lost my mama june21st.She had throat cancer in 2008, lived on a feeding tube, had over 125 dr. visits in a 6 year time.She went in the hospital April 29th, she decided to have a trach put in,did good for about 5or 6 days afterwards, then meant in ICU,we was faced with putting her on ventilator, we did not,& she lived for 10 days,I'm having a really hard time cause I feel as though she left this world thinking we gave up on her. Anyway,I know how you feel,but hang in there hopefully things will get easier for us both.thinking&praying for you from Athens,Alabama:)

Jul 31, 2014
Thinking of you.
by: Anonymous

Please know you're not alone - my mum passed away a month earlier (June 17th) and again, she was only 52. It shouldn't happen - it's not the way things go.
I take a lot of hope and comfort knowing that my mum is close by, I've had feathers appear at times.
Let yourself grief - and don't let anyone take that away from you. Cry. Scream. Shout - anything - but grieve. I allow myself to experience the grief - and stay close to people around you.
Thinking of you x

Jul 29, 2014
For Shawn
by: Jane

Mommy I love you so much,
we will always be in touch,
I miss you more then words can tell,
and when I hear the telephone bell,
I think it is you Mom, I can hear your voice,
but you are gone, there is no joice.
One day Mommy, I gonna see you again,
my tears coming out of my eyes like rain,
I am waiting for the day, I can lay in your arms,
enjoy your love and beautiful charme.
Our love will bind us together,
and I will never forget you, never.
I love you Mommy

May God comfort you and bless you and I will pray for you.

Jul 29, 2014
My Story - Patty and me
by: Doreen UK

Shawn it is one of the worst experiences of one's life when they lose their mom's. Life is also so busy for many people having to go to work not by choice, but because they need to earn a living. Which means so many families don't get to see each other as much as they want to. Then when you do have time off, it means catching up with your weekly laundry, cleaning your apartment and shopping for groceries. Life is tough trying to fit it all in. I as a mom understand this so I don't make demands on my children, but also wishing life was not like this so I could see more of my adult children. I am sure your mom would have understood this. It is also part of grief to feel the way you do, but this feeling won't last, it should soon pass. Your mom was so young to die.
I lost my husband of 44yrs. to a deadly cancer 2yrs. ago. So many of our loved one's are having their lives cut short from cancer and it is such a destructive disease. It hurts when you want to talk to your mom and she is not there anymore. the best way forward is by TAKING ONE DAY AT A TIME. It has only been 2 weeks since you lost your mom and we can all remember those first few weeks. It hurt so much. This pain can go on for weeks/months. For some even years. But don't look too far ahead. Recovery from grief is such a slow process to heal from. Just honour how you feel. When you need to cry just cry and don't mind what any insensitive person might say to you. If you feel you are struggling with your grief you can always see a grief counsellor for support. I lost my mom 11yrs. ago and it took me 9yrs. before I could even put her photo frame out. I can't look at any photo's of my husband. It hurts too much. We each have our own history, and our own healing process. but the grief experience is the same for all of us. I am sorry for your loss of your mom.

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