My Story.

by Hope Baker

I am 13 years old, and I lost my dad when I was 10. In March of next year will be three years that he has been gone. He was coming home from work when a drunk driver hit him head on. From what everyone told me, he died instantly. Which is a good thing of course, I didn't want him to suffer. It's still hard on my family and really hard on me. I was cleaning earlier today and found his stuff, which included his wedding ring, I immediately lost it. I can't believe he is gone, he was only 38. Love and miss you daddy.

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Dec 21, 2012
My Story
by: Doreen U.K.

Hope I am sorry for your loss of your Dad to a sudden death from a road traffic accident. You were so very young at 10yrs. to fully understand this loss of a special person in your life. One half of your parent. You have also lost the nurturing your father would have provided you. You are now 13yrs. and still suffering this loss. It wouldn't hurt you to talk to a counsellor and just tease out any feelings you may have repressed as a result of your father's death at such a young age. As you might say in the Prime of His Life. How is your Mom? She must have suffered the hard grief of a woman losing her husband at such a young age. Most people are still continuing having children as they might not have completed their family. This is another loss to your Mom. Which is why talking to a counsellor will cover all aspects of loss. Most of us suffer in life due to LOSS. (of many kinds). You haven't resolved grief which is why you are still very hurt when finding anything of your Dad's. This is also normal. I lost my husband a few months ago and I am still not able to look at anything of His. It is too painful. I managed to detach myself so I could put His clothes in black bags for going to Charity. I put these bags in the spare room and 6 months later just been able to give them to the charity shop so others can benefit. My husband ordered some rings and lovely Silver Tribe jewellery from America and didn't get a chance to wear them. Also a leather cowboy waistcoat from America and I can't bear to look at this or give it away. OH! how it hurts. You will grieve for a long long time. You have your whole life ahead of you. You need to make sure that you are not holding onto any emotional hurt that can stop you moving forward. You will also find it a struggle still being at school, and having to study. Just don't suffer ALONE. Talk to someone and expell all your sadness so you won't end up with depression. It is never easy going through life without a parent. YOU will feel a terrible VOID, an emptiness in your life. If you believe in God? REMEMBER He is our Heavenly Father, and He has Promised to care for us, especially when we have lost a parent from our lives. Lean on God for your Comfort and Help throughout Life. He is our Creator, He sustains us where we are in our Sorrow and Grief. God sees everything and knows everything. I hope that you go on in your young life to be successfull and to be in a happier place in your life in TIME.

Dec 21, 2012
Love and prayers
by: Elle

Oh, Hope, I am so sorry about your loss of your father in such a tragic accident.

It must have been so hurtful for you to find his things today while you were cleaning. The holidays remind us of all of the wonderful memories we have of those whom we loved the most. We so want to see and be with them again. It's hard to believe that we can't.

Know that you will always have your father's love and he yours. Nothing can ever take away the love you have for one other.

I'm thinking about you tonight. I know your father feels your love, and I hope you feel his. I pray that you be comforted.



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