my sudden death

by Tracie
(Cincinnati )

Hi am 32 years old and I lost my father on Nov 6 2013 it was a sudden an unexpected death he died in his sleep mom slept next to him the whole night then awoke and found him the next morning my dad was not sick at all and we thought he was pretty healthy so it's a total shock to my entire family I feel so lost and sad and alone my dad was 62 years old I will truly miss him he was the rock to my family and with the holidays coming which was his favorite time of year will be very hard I just ask people to please pray for my family Thanks

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Jan 30, 2014
Sudden Death
by: Chunku

My dad passed away April 14 2013, he was 64 years old. I am thinking as time goes by the pain will get better, but it is getting worse. every now and then I would get in a very sad mood and start to cry. reading your blog does make me feel like a little better knowing that people do understand. what I can say is that this experience does gave me a new prospective on life.

Nov 26, 2013
for Ivy
by: Doreen UK

Ivy I am sorry you had a bad counselling experience. You say you felt you were having some sort of breakdown. This is how counselling can often make one feel especially if you don't know what to expect. I felt as if a scalpel was taken to my core and I was slowly hemoraghing and I would go home feeling very disoriented and couldn't focus on life at all. I became subdued. I never believed it would work but anything was better than the way I felt. I woke up one day and all the pain inside me disappeared and I felt better and very different like I had never ever felt before. This was the healing process of 40yrs. of repression. All my depression of 40yrs. went and I never felt as good as I do now. I couldn't go back to the person I was if I tried. It is nothing short of a miracle. A good counsellor will know how to work and get good results. For me the work in counselling outweighed the benefits. I just wanted you to know what to expect. No fault of the counsellor. This is the process of healing emotions. I wish you well in life and a good recovery from grief.

Nov 25, 2013
So sorry for your loss
by: Anonymous

My dad died unexpectedly to on October 21, 2013 at the age of 63. I am 35 and expecting my first child...his first grandchild. I am so happy we told him we were expecting and he got to see ultrasound pictures but it is so unfair that my little one won't get to know their papa. Dad loved Christmas and always found the biggest most beautiful Christmas tree not sure how we will celebrate the holidays this year but in his memory I still want to celebrate he would want us to be all together and remember the good times but as Christmas gets closer I find it harder and harder to focus on the good and miss him more and more

Nov 19, 2013
Sorry for your loss
by: Ivy

Tracie, I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my father on March 11, 2013 after a week long stay in the hospital and have suffered the loss terribly. I tried counseling, but did not have the best experience. I felt as though I was going to have some sort of a break down. I recently found this web site and began to realize that my feelings were not abnormal. This site has been my comfort and I look everyday. I hope that you too, will find this to be uplifting and as recent as your loss has been, will have a better understanding of the grieving process than I did. I finally feel like I will find a new normal and will gain my confidence back. I know what I was trying to do was tell myself that I should be doing better and that I should not still be crying.

I wish that I could have some words for the upcoming holidays, but this is my first also. I can honestly say that I am not looking forward to them at all.

May God bless you and give you peace in your time of loss


Nov 15, 2013
my sudden death
by: Doreen UK

Tracie I am sorry for your loss of your father to a sudden death. It is so unfair that many men die just before retirement when they should be enjoying life from working hard all those years. I am in this position. Lost my husband of 44yrs. to cancer and now do retirement on my own. This I do find very unfair. But there is so much unfairness in life that I just accept this. Your mother will find life harder now and will need the good support of family which does help a lot. Tracie stay close to God and the Church and find your strength in God who is our main Comfort and strength at this time. My husband was 65yrs. he died 16 days before his 66th birthday. My youngest daughter is 33yrs. so the loss of a father is hard on Adult Children. My husband was dying of cancer over 3yrs. and just made it for our son's wedding, but it was hard as he was so ill. I cope ONE DAY AT A TIME. I also live with the Hope of Eternal life and know I will see my husband again. Don't give up Hope. This is all we have. Stay close to family and you will get through this grief with good support.

Nov 15, 2013
Feeling the same
by: Anonymous

Dear Tracie,

I am so sorry to read about your father. I lost my father suddenly in January. He suffered sudden cardiac arrest, collapsed and died one morning. We all thought he was fine and healthy. I am an adult, with a family of my own, but the whole dynamic of my life has changed. My Dad was very active in our lives and we are still in shock that he is gone. I understand your pain and I will pray for you and your family. Wishing you comfort and peace during these days, Barb

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