My Sweet Tony---many times here now...hope this helps us all

by carroll

I come here often to seek peace...My Sweet Tony has been gone 4 1/2 mo now. I was sent this e-mail below...I share with we all know the grief is WHY we need to MAKE each day precious! Thanks to you who comment to helps me fine some peace. Take care to all....I continue to try and survive....but I WANT to live!!

A friend of mine opened his wife's underwear drawer and picked up a silk paper-wrapped package:
'This, - he said - isn't any ordinary package.'
He unwrapped the box and stared at both the silk paper and the box.
'She got this the first time we went to New York , 8 or 9 years ago. She has never put it on , was saving it for a special occasion.
Well, I guess this is it.
He got near the bed and placed the gift box next to the other clothing he was taking to the funeral house, his wife had just died.
He turned to me and said:
'Never save something for a special occasion.
Every day in your life is a special occasion'.
I still think those words changed my life.
Now I read more and clean less.
I sit on the porch without worrying about
I spend more time with
my family, and less at work.
I understood that life should be a source of experience to be lived up to, not survived through.
I use crystal glasses every day...
I'll wear new clothes to go to the supermarket, if I feel like it..
I don't save my special
perfume for special occasions, I use it whenever I want to.
T he words 'Someday....' and ' One Day...' are fading away from my
;If it's worth seeing,
listening or doing, I want to see, listen or do
it now....
I don't know what my friend's wife would have done if she knew she wouldn't be there the next morning, this nobody can tell..
I think she might have called her relatives and closest friends.
She might call old friends to make peace over past quarrels.
I'd like to think she
would go out for Chinese, her favorite
It's these small things
that I would regret not doing, if I knew my time had come..
Each day, each hour,
each minute, is special.
Live for today, for tomorrow is promised to no-one..

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Sep 04, 2012
thank you
by: Anonymous

this is one of the most beautiful things ive ever read. thank you for sharing.
im glad my last time spent with my grandma was a wonderful day. i wouldnt trade our time together for the world, although i miss her with every ounce of me.

Aug 31, 2012
My Sweet tony----many times here now..hope this helps us all
by: Doreen U.K.

Carroll thank you for your post and the comfort this brings to all those who have lost someone. I am sorry for your loss of your husband. I lost my husband of 44yrs. 4 months ago. It does hurt. I am so happy that YOU WANT TO LIVE!!!. I hope that you do go on to find love again when you are ready and that life will continue to bring you Love, happiness and joy, and that this will continue from the life you had with your precious husband.
I agree that one should use special things and just not keep this for special occassions and make every day SPECIAL. I learnt this too late. I looked in the cupboard and saw the beautiful dishes I was keeping for special occassions and didn't use these every day. I did however buy some new ones and used these before Steve died. But I do wish I had used the ones for special occassions. My eldest daughter used to go into the cabinet and take these beautiful dishes out and I used to feel like telling her to use the old ones. But I am glad I never did. I let her use them. She is now married and living away. I think I am now going to wear something good every day. I wear my old clothes all the time. Steve didn't like this. he told me to throw my old clothes away. I am glad I did. But I didn't replace them with much better. All my lovely QVC Indigo Moon clothes are in the wardrobe. I think now is the time to bring them out and use them. Thank you for allowing us to see a different aspect of Life and how precious this is and how to make each day SPECIAL.

Aug 30, 2012
special items
by: silver

I realize now how much this is true. I bought a special card for my husband for his birthday in October.I just happened to see it. I love looking at cards about love. It told him that he was my soul-mate. I never got to give it to him because he died in May. I am telling my children and extended family everyday now that I love them. I like the part about using your special clothes and dishes. I think I will begin doing just that. Thanks to both of you for the special thoughts.

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