My Tommy Forever

by Rebecca

Me and my Tommy

Me and my Tommy

I met this great guy when I turned 18. He was my love, my best friend for 23 years. He was taken from us on February 6th 2013. A ruthless coward shot and killed him on his way home from working a 10 hour day. Leaving me a widow at just 41 and our daughter without her father at just 21, never to walk her down the isle one day or meet his unborn grandchildren. I am so very lost without this great guy who made me laugh everyday, told me he loved me several times a day, and held me every night as I fell asleep! I want him back!

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Sep 29, 2015
lonely widow
by: Dave's love

My heart is aching for your loss. My husband died of a lung disease.Your husbands untimely death should never have happened.
God bless you and your family

Sep 14, 2013
I feel your grief...
by: Lynne

My heart aches with yours..I too, lost the one who made me laugh and held me to go to sleep every night....I want him back also, but, alas, not to happen...they are gone from us...I do know your hubby passed on july 2, 2013 and I miss him sooo much I ache every day... they say it gets easier, I am still waiting...hang on my friend!!!!

Aug 10, 2013
My Tommy Forever
by: Doreen U.K.

Rebecca I am sorry for your loss of your beloved husband to a sudden death.
A lot of people can act like the clown in a circus who is happy and makes those around him laugh, whilst his internal world is unhappy and upside down. But he doesn't want to show the people he loves this side of him. This is his own internal struggle he shares with no one. Then one day it spills over and he kills himself leaving a widow and family grieving his loss forever.
You are very angry and rightly so. You have so many questions and no answers. I don't think this is such a cowardly act as a desperate one. Do we ever really know someone we love? It is usually at a crisis in our lives that we realise the person we knew was not like this at all and we are shattered in more ways than we ever knew. Better to live with the happy memories and leave the one's alone that we cannot understand because they will never be answered. Many people prefer to go to the grave with their secrets. You can do nothing about this. FOCUS on the man he was and honour him for this. FORGIVE him for leaving you a widow at such a young age. Grieve and then realise you now have the FREEDOM to structure your life how you want to. Often we get few real happy chances in life and have to thank God for the ones' we did have. Put God into your life if you don't have Him there already and let His Comfort wash over you and give you HOPE. Go see a counsellor to help support you through this type of loss and strengthen yourself for this hard road ahead. I know this is not the life you wanted or planned for. My nephew through himself in front of an express train at age 30yrs. His circumstances were different but the pain he left is the same. The suddenness of this type of death cannot be explained and leaves more complications of grief. I hope you have supportive family and friend to help walk with you till you feel stronger to put your life back together again.

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