My wonderful daughter

by Carol
(New York)

I lost my beautiful daughter Lori (43) six months ago on May 8. She was diagnosed with cancer and was gone in two weeks. It was a major trauma for me and my family. She was such an amazing woman. The holidays were so hard this year. I still don't feel it's real sometimes. We lived far apart, but talked on the phone almost every day and visited as often as we could. I do feel forgotten my some people I thought were friends. I hear that's normal.

I find some respite in my grandchildren. Sorry if I seem to be rambling. I don't know how to answer strangers when they ask how many children I have. I feel I still have three. So I try to avoid conversation. Is there a good answer? I have been reading this site often and everyone is in my thoughts and prayers.

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May 06, 2011
New York
by: Carol

It will be one year on Mother's Day that I lost Lori. It seems like yesterday. I made it this far, but it is still so hard. I am trying to concentrate on my other children and grandchildren. My love to all the mothers and fathers that are hurting this year.

Jan 29, 2011
Thank You
by: Carol

Thank you for your kind words. Everything is just so hard.

Jan 24, 2011
Three Children
by: TrishJ

Carol~sometimes people can be so hurtful with their questions. I have been avoided by a few people since my husband passed away. I too thought they were my friends. The pain hits too close to them~ really it's not contagious.
I think you should tell people you have three children. She was and always will be your daughter.

One person who I wasn't sure was a good friend to me has been fantastic. She calls me several times a week to tell me my husband will always be here for me, he's watching over me, I will see him again some day. Think of it as your daughter living out of the country. She's still your daughter, she just isn't living close by at the present time.

Hugs and God's Blessings.

Jan 24, 2011
my wonderful daughter
by: sue

I too lost my daughter, in dec. 2010. and i still have 2 kids, my son and my daughter. no matter that she isn't with you physically, she will always be your daughter. Your pain i share and trust they are still with us. My daughter's name is Robyn and no matter how long it becomes, she is my daughter and i will always keep her a part of my life, It will be a long hard road, but knowing she will always be with me in my heart and memories and one day with her again helps me.

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