My wonderful son

by Kay

Dean Bradley Burgess
My handsome young son, with a wonderful sense of humour and a big heart was killed on May 11,2010 in a motor vehicle accident. He had only landed his dream job 4 weeks earlier as a plant operator driving heavy machinery, and was on his way to work.

I am so empty and lost, I feel like my heart has been torn out and ripped in half. He was a wonderful son. I adored him so much. The pain is almost too much to comprehend. My life as it was is now over. it will never be the same .....Kay I am thinking of all of you who have lost a loved one .

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May 20, 2013
biggest fear
by: Anonymous

Its my biggest fear ..i feel for you son I still have him ..i do not mean to open this pain but i cant imagine how tough angry It must be...would be..only..i wish you the best..and that you found some peace and you can find away..I hope and pray for you. And those have lost have lost scares me to think

Jul 11, 2012
pain is deep
by: kay

It has been 2 years since my beautiful 23 yr old son Dean was killed in a car accident.I am so weary from trying to put on a brave face...I am still in so much pain seems to no longer have purpose.I know I have 3 beautiful grandaughters and a daughter,but I feel they would be better off without me.I dont know what to do.I have really tried so hard...I go about life like its a robot like existence.When I close my eyes at night I am so so sad.I adore you Dean.When I lost you Part of my soul and heart died too.I have a heartache 24 hours every for eternity .

Jun 02, 2011
by: Anonymous

It has been just over 1 year since you were taken from this earthly plane.I am slowly ...getting through each day some dragging myself around,some just ok.Today I am a mess crying make that sobbing so hard ...I felt a huge build up of emotion,lying just below the surface.Today it has broken through.....I adore you my wonderful son,I miss you more each day...I want to hold you so badly like a mother should .I close my eyes at night and imagine I am holding you.I am so sorry that I am as weak as this...I have really tried so hard.Truth is I feel like it will take a lifetime to heal....The pain is still so very very intense,my heart feels like a gaping wound that is raw and aching.

May 08, 2011
missing you so much
by: Kay (mum)

My darling Deano I am missing you on this day....Mothers Day.....I am alone and crying looking at your pic.....Only you and God know how much I love you.My heart is still aching ,I want to hold you in my son..I will for eternity hold you in my aching heart.I will for eternity hold our precious memories so close and so dear.Miss you mum

Apr 02, 2011
happy birthday Dean I love you so much
by: Anonymous

Oh DeAN YOUr 25 today I miss you ao much your the only one I wNT FOR gmma wwe were so privledge to have part of you, just not long enough.

Aug 06, 2010
Angel Mum
by: Lesley

I know what you are feeling, I've been there since 17 August 2008 when my precious son was killed in a motor bike accident by a drunk pedestrian.

All I have to offer is that although for me it has been almost two years, the pain does not go away, you learn to cope with it. I still cry every day and hope to wake up from this nightmare.
Please know that there are so many mothers that are willing to listen, I am a member of a group Ă„ngel Mums. We meet once a month to share experiences and just talk. We give each other the support we all need. Many have been in Angel Mum's for 15-30 years and still the pain persists. So don't give up, join a group or start your own group... it really does help.
Angel Mum (Lesley)

Jul 30, 2010
A Mother's Heart
by: Anonymous

Dear Kay,

I too, could not go in public places or hear music; I would be engulfed in tears all over again. It took a few months before I could hear music and then I got to the place where I wanted to hear music that spoke to my heart. It takes effort to face each day, but you keep moving one step at a time.

Time does not erase anything in my opinion - let alone heal all wounds, but perspectives change over time. Our hearts and minds are slow to sort and accept, which I believe is a gift. The shock is overwhelming enough. Keep writing and give me a personal note when you can. I will be pleased to correspond with you.
Blessings, Gracie

Jul 19, 2010
I am going mad
by: Kay

I am trying so hard to cope with losing my son 23, but it's not working. I can't even go into a supermarket or around a large group of people i have these feelings come over me, that just engulf me and I have to get away. It has been around 9 weeks now since my sons death. I still am having trouble realising he is never coming back. I just don't want to go on with all this pain. Even when I hear music it's like a knife through my heart.

Jul 16, 2010
sending love and healing
by: Kay

Hi Linda
Thank you for your message. My email is if you would like to communicate.

Jul 14, 2010
Lost My Son Also
by: Linda

I am so sorry. I know what you feel. It does not get better, it just gets different. I lost my son on April 3, 2010 in an automobile accident. I am at a loss as to what to say. The pain has not gone away for me, and may never. I miss him so much, like you miss your son. I can only hope that you find some peace in family and friends.
Thinking Of You,
Linda Church,
Call Me If You Just Want To Talk,
I Am A Good Listener,
(Phone number deleted by editor for privacy and safety; we will post email addresses, but not phone numbers)

Jul 13, 2010
Thank you
by: kay

Thank you so much for your kind words, I am so sorry to hear about your son. It is an enormous loss..I was feeling like I wanted to join my son also...I am so lost and dread facing each day....My heart goes out to you as I know what you are feeling. I have been advised to buy Elizabeth Kubler Ross book.I am willing to try anything to rid me of this pain....I am thinking of

Jul 13, 2010
Loss of Son
by: Brenda

I lost my 27 year old son on May 21, 2010. We are not even sure yet what killed him. We are waiting on the Medical Examiners' report.
I know the terrible pain that you are feeling. Sometime I even think I want to go to him and make sure he is alright. I have so much guilt about my son that I could have done more to help him. He was very sick with Diabetes.

I miss my son so much and tonight has been very hard for me. I wish there was something I could tell you that would make it easier but I have not found that answer yet. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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