Not just my dad, but my best friend

by Cheri
(Ormond Beach, FL USA)

December 8, 2009, my dad was involved in a motorcycle accident. Someone pulled out and hit him. He had trauma to his head, and they did surgery. He never came out of the coma and we were told he would, if he survived, be in a persistant vegetative state.

On December 19, 2009, we took him off life support. That day has forever changed my life. There is not a day or a minute that goes by that I don't think about my dad. I miss everything about him. I miss calling him up in the morning just to say hello. We used to go to lunch twice a week and did breakfast on the weekends. We also did dinner at least once a week.

I feel a complete void and emptiness inside me. I feel alone even though I do have my wonderful husband to support me. He misses him very much also. They were very close. I keep telling myself, "this could not have happened" and expect him to walk through my door, yet knowing it will never happen.

I will never completely heal from this tragedy, but I know my dad is always with me. I can still feel his presence, which helps me in a way. It was too soon for God to take him from us, but I guess He had other plans. There really are no words to describe the pain in my heart at this time, but it is nice to know that there is this website that we can share our grief together. Until we see each other again, Dad, I love you.

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Jan 14, 2010
I can relate...
by: Anonymous

Two and half years ago my father was hit broad-side at 60mph on his motorcycle. He went through 10 surgeries over the course of a year and a half to ultimatley have his leg amputated 6 inches below the knee. Since the amputation, the past year had been the best year of his life. He purchased his dream cabin, boat, and snowmobiles.

On December 28th, 2009 my father's snowmobile went through the ice and he drowned in 7 feet of water. The pain of losing my father is almost unbearable right now. I have so much grief and I don't know how to handle it. I miss him so much. He wasn't just my father, he was my best friend, hunting partner, and papa to my children.

Jan 13, 2010
I do understand
by: Barbara

I just wanted to let you know that I went through the same situation in September. My husband was in a motorcycle accident. Somebody turned right in front of him and he had no time to react. Randy had a broken neck and was on life support. He never would have come out of the coma. I was told the same thing about if he did he would be a paraplegic.

I made the choice the day after the accident to take him off life support. I knew he would never want to live that way. He lived about 10 minutes after the life support was removed. I know that Randy is with my heavenly father. The only thing that keeps me going is trusting in God. It is very hard, but God is guiding me through it. Hang in there and surround yourself with love. That's what your dad would want.

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