Not just the pain of losing dad

I lost my father after a short bout with very aggressive prostate cancer. He died Sept. 19th. Now someone who I thought was a very close and dear friend has told me i am selfish and should just move on and that I need counseling.

I thought I was moving along in the grief process just fine, but she has diagnosed me with all sorts of depression related illnesses and has even offered to pay for counseling. I tried to explain the process to her and even provided educational material to explain things, and she still thinks that I need counseling.

I am very comfortable with where I am, and my husband thinks I am doing fine. Do I just give up on this friendship? I just don't think that she understands. I lost my mother eight years ago so I knew what to expect and I have just let everything happen, I haven't fought anything and I actually feel pretty good considering the situation. Am I going nuts?