I am an unmarried 39 year old female who lost her Mom on January 18th after a short illness.

Mom and I were very close and I am almost overcome with grief. To make matters worse: My Dad and I do not get along, I have few other relatives and hardly any friends( I am quite shy and find it hard to meet new people).

When Mom became aware that her health was taking an unexpected turn for the worse, we did have one last private conversation. I got to tell her that I loved her and thank her for always being so good to me.

I know that last talk (which was brief because she was quite weak) is something to be grateful for, but it does not seem like enough. I am filled with regrets I can't shake and my sleep is filled with nightmares.

I don't have the money to see a shrink and am hoping someone might have some suggestions for me on how to cope.

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Feb 03, 2012
by: Anonymous

Dear NYGAL: I lost my mom on December 3rd after a stroke. I don't think a man or woman ever recovers from losing their mom. I think if I was told the arctic ice cap had suddenly disappeared under the waves I'd be able to believe it easier than if someone told me your mom is gone. A mom is such a huge part of our life it is almost impossible to understand life without her. I have a strong faith, the faith mom and I share, that there is life after death. And I believe there is an awesome and amazing life on the other side of this one where I will see my mom again. I love life but I cannot wait to pass over and see my beautiful mother again. What a time that will be when I hug her again and say, I love you. Never to be parted again! Praise the Lord!

Jan 30, 2012
I find Dear God Letters Work
by: Anonymous

I say dear God Letters, but you can call them whatever you want. You can write whatever you want. Send a letter to your mom, tell her everything you ever wanted her to know. Then take it outside and set it on fire and let the God of the universe send it to her. It is amazing how empowering it can be. There is no way that anyone can no what was contained in the letter and you can write as many as you need to and as often as you need to. I have also because of the many losses that I have suffered made a family bracelet, but you can make a necklace and wear that something special for your mom, or even a ring. I also have gotten myself a teddy bear, and I know that sounds childlike but if I need to hug something, a teddy bear works quite fine and no one needs to no about it. Hope it works.

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