Oddly Enough, "Loss of my Job"

by Ellen
(Michigan)

I had been working with a company for 13 years. It was the longest of several jobs I had held, including being in the United States Navy.
I was recently "let go" for downsizing, budget cuts, whatever you want to call it. I was not fired. My loyalty to the company and my work ethic were always commended. Now I sit here today, only 2 days since the "loss" of my job, and due to my age (I'm 58), I'm actually scared. I will go through the 7 stages, because regardless that there was no "death" I actually experienced, I am grieving.

I am a divorced woman, and mother, with no 2nd source of income. My child, now grown, will be ok. I however worry that I can't think of reasons to get up in the morning any longer. This will pass. I will bounce back, but for the moment, my eyes are welling up and it feels good to put it down in words. To anyone reading this, thank you for listening.

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Sep 16, 2012
me to
by: Anonymous

I lost my job just a few days from my anniversary date and my 60th birthday. The department had just hired 3 men half my age at a lot less per hour than my hourly wage. In all my years I've had high reviews and no a customer complaints. I was falsely accused and dismissed without the opportunity to defend myself. I was denied the severance package. It was swift. It was brutal. it was wrong. I could file a human rights violation with the US labor department, but would it be worth it? Obviously they don't want me working there any longer and I do not wish to return. I've been out of work for less than three weeks and I may have found another similar position with a smaller company at only a 10% wage loss.

Sep 11, 2012
More on job loss
by: Anonymous

I lost my job about two months ago. I'm still grieving. I don't feel mentally ready to get another job yet as I have been diagnosed with depression, generalized anxiety disorder and panic disorder. I am seeing a therapist and a psychiatrist. First time I've ever felt this depressed. It's been a loss to me, like losing a loved one almost. I was there for 19 years and then gone. Job eliminated. I have faith in God this happened for a reason, but some days I get panicky about it. I can relate. So many of us out there. I wish there was a law protecting older workers.

Jan 02, 2012
Job loss
by: Anonymous

I am losing my job tomorrow. I am scared because of my age. I have worked at this company for 34 years and feel lost what does one do in this situation?

Oct 10, 2011
Loss of My Job
by: Anonymous

I thank everyone for their well wishes and concerns for the loss of my job. As it so happens, the further away from that job I became, the clearer my vision got. I now see several of my friends who are still there, miserable in their jobs, but due to "golden handcuffs", they are too afraid to leave. I smile more, I laugh more often, and I attribute a lot of my depression to that former job. Life is too short to sweat the small stuff. I mentioned in my first writing that I was former military. As it so happens, when I went to file for unemployment, one of the many job skills that I listed caught the eye of the Veterans assistant at the center and he said, hold the bus, there just might be a federal job that is crying for your skills. In a couple of days, I may be employed by the federal government, assisting Veterans like myself. I know that government is not on the side of the little guy too much, but at this point, I'm eager to see if they will find me something better than what I had before. Keep me in your prayers. Oddly Enough.

Sep 29, 2011
Loss of my Job
by: Pat J.

Ellen,
Don't be so hard on yourself. I worked for a company for almost 25 years. I had to work another 5 weeks and I would have been with them 25 years. No warning, moving in a different direction and didn't fit anymore I was told. I was 63 years old. When it happened I said to muy God, there is a reason for this.

It was a loss, I kind of went through a mourning period. But I did survive. The only problem is, my husband is now no longer with me. He died of a massive heart attack on June 27th, the day after our 46th wedding anniversary. I look back now, and as our children said, I was able to spend each day with my husband. Little would I know that 10 months down the road my husband would die.

I am now grieving for the loss of my husband and I no longer, sweat the small stuff. I am taking it one day at a time, faking it until I can make
it. I shed my share of tears. It was 3 months Tuesday, that he died. Sometimes it seems he's been gone forever, and then it feels like just yesterday. His wake and funeral are a little hazy, I don't remember alot and for the life of me I cannot picture his face in the casket. I guess that is a good, but I guess in a way, that is a blessing.I just see his smiling face.
I keep telling myself things will get easier. My old comfortable life is gone. I face a new challenge ahead of me as do you.
Please pray, prayer helps me get through some rough times.

Sep 25, 2011
Don't give up . . .
by: Karen

I am so sorry for your job loss - I am going to be 57 next month and because I tried to do the right thing I am concerned about what I said at work to uphold my work ethics. Right now I still have a job but am dealing with an almost ex who slept with prostitutes and lied his way back into my life and brought more financial concerns to me but at least I still have my job and my almost ex is now trying his moves on yet another woman - she doesn't know as I didn't that he was a drug dealer, takes drugs and is an alcoholic - is working at the State of Maryland right now because they do not do drug testing for taking Oxycodone, and I mean not a prescription, drugs off the street from his friend at work brother - yes it is complicated. I cannot imagine what you are going through. My sister's roof is leaking, floor is torn up but at least we are still handling the bills - all but the legal fees that I am fighting to get my husband separate and apart from me! I hope you are ok and know that the Lord is with you, even at this dark hour. I had to give up my rescue dogs because of the cost but I made sure they were taken care and will get excellent homes. Thank God our children have their own homes/lives.

Sep 25, 2011
Those scoundrels!
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Ahhhhhh those scoundrels ! They did that on purpose to keep from having to pay you pension. They SHOULD have laid off the last one hired. But it is all about the money, not the experience and I am so very sorry for your loss. You will get back on your feet though an incredible injustice has been done. My father had the same thing working for Westinghouse for so many years and at about your age they let him go. Fortunately he was able to find a company who appreciated his experience and hard work. He was scared I am sure but as his child we were not privy to his inner emotions. He was strong as you are and found his way, I hope that you find yours.
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