One Year Ago Today - March 21st 2011

by Cynthia L. Graham

One year ago today, I lost my most precious only child Dylan. I have found my life to be so dramatically changed since he died that I hardly recognize it, but my undying love for him lives on forever. I have found that much comfort comes from the words that I leave here. It is truly a miracle, the healing that occurs from writing it down for all to see. My Dylan was wonderful and as long as I keep telling people that, he will live on in thought and memory. My son and I never even knew what was happening when his appendix ruptured; that he was dying. This is the hardest part for me...that I never got to say goodbye to my darling heart. I don't know where the road of life will take me now, but this I do know; my life is richer because he lived, and the joy that his life brought to me inspires me now and always.

Cindy, Dylan's mom

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Mar 24, 2012
my heartfelt sympathy to you

Hi the year 2011 was very bad for me i lost my angel brandon on 18th october 2011, he had a major heart attack and the worst art is i didnt know he was going i feel really terrible, sometimes i just wish i could turn the clock back, anyway i get a little comfort by writing on this blog

Mar 23, 2012
Kind Of You
by: Cindy

To all who posted here, thankyou for your care and kind words. As you all know, sweet words to a grieving person are like rain in a parched and barren place. My Dylan was only 27 when he passed on; his story is here in "Loss Of An Adult Child" (MY DYLAN, MY ONLY, MY LOVE, AND MY LIFE).
My deepest sympathy for all of you who have come here to grieve the loss of your precious, darling
children. It is lifes cruelest blow, and recovery is slow and painful. There is hope, but it comes only from God and the hearts of others who know this journey. Honour your children by finishing your own journey and remembering them any way you can along the way. I have read "Heaven Is For Real" and it is an amazing story. I would like to leave you with a beautiful poem I found.

I stood by your bed:

I stood by your bed last night, I came to have a peep. I could see that you were crying, you found it hard to sleep. I spoke to you softly as you brushed away a tear, "It's me, I haven't left you, I'm well, I'm fine, I'm here." I was close to you at breakfast, I watched you pour the tea, You were thinking of the many times your hands reached out to me. I was with you at the shops today, your arms were getting sore. I longed to take your parcels, I wish I could do more. I was with you at my grave today, you tend it with such care. I want to reassure you, that I'm not lying there. I walked with you towards the house, as you fumbled for your key. I gently put my hand on you, I smiled and said "it's me." You looked so very tired, and sank into a chair. I tried so hard to let you know, that I was standing there. It's possible for me to be so near you every day. To say to you with certainty, "I never went away." You sat there very quietly, then smiled, I think you knew ... in the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you. The day is over... I smile and watch you yawning and say "goodnight, God bless, I'll see you in the morning." And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide, I'll rush across to greet you and we'll stand, side by side. I have so many things to show you, there is so much for you to see. Be patient, live your journey out...then come home to be with me.

With Love, Cindy

Mar 22, 2012
by: Ginny

I'm glad it helps you to write about your son. I was telling my mother that it is way more difficult to lose a child than a spouse. I just lost my spouse. I dont' know how I'm going to make it.
It helps me to take my guitar and sing praises to God.
My heart is breaking and I am praying that I wont' fall into a pit of despair and depression.
I need to cry. It helps.
God bless you! You've probably read "Heaven is real". I have the book. My husband worked at Books a Million and his boss recommended this book.

Mar 22, 2012
You have inspired me
by: Anonymous

Cynthia, I am so sorry about Dylan. A year is like a fleeting moment to me. My 29yo daughter was murdered almost two years now. I feel the same as you, I am a better person for having her in my life. Why she had to go so tragically I don't know, but I know my daughter, and she has already forgiven the person who took her life. I'm not sure where I will find the heart to forgive. Thank you for sharing about Dylan, and I feel like alot of people were touched by Heather's life.

Mar 22, 2012
I know how you feel.
by: Karen ,Tsmania,Australia

Hi Cindy,iknow exactly what you mean by lives changing our world has been turned upside down since the passing of my beautiful son Josh in August 2011 aged 14,we moved out of the house where i found him in the shower we dont know what happend but we think he had a heart attack but still waiting on the Coroner. my life is very different now we go to places that we didnt before and do things we never did before. We keep very much to ourselves now. If you would like to talk more please feel free to email me old was your son he sounds wonderful like my son Karenx.

Mar 21, 2012
Question:How "old was Dylan"?

We lost our precious,loving 27 Yr. Old Son-Leon C. Tuthill,Jr on Friday-December 23, 2011 to "Dilated Cardiomyopathy"! WE WILL NEVER GET OVER HIS LOSS!!! I was just curious;how old was your Dylan was? As far as we are concerned-we will NEVER GET OVER THIS!!!LORD HAVE MERCY ON US!!!

Mar 21, 2012
my darling son Brendon
by: Vicky

HiCindy, my son died 4th dec 2011, I am still finding it so hard to move on, I miss him so much it hurts, he was a kind person with a huge heart,he always wanted to help others, he was always first inline to help, he made my life so much better for being in it, He was a carpenter and rebuild our house for us, he was such a good worker. He was riding home on his new motor bike one day when a man didn't see him and drove straight into him. He had a brken leg and arm his lungs were punctured his back was broken in two places and hid neck was broke, he lived for 8 days then passed away. He had about 300 people at his funeral so many people loved him. I just don't know how to move on life is so different now.

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