One Year On

by Sharon GillespieBelfast, Northern Ireland

Murphy & Me 1995 - she was 2 months old

Murphy & Me 1995 - she was 2 months old

This time last year I lay cuddling my 16 year old Westie, Murphy, who I knew would not be with me for long. It was her birthday and it also became the day she chose to leave. I can’t explain the pain that her death brought me; the overwhelming sadness of no longer having her constantly by my side.

I know that there are loads of people who will not understand the devastation a person can feel at losing a pet and that’s OK – this site (’t for you but there are so many people who do need to grieve and share memories in order for them to heal. I am hoping that this site will help.

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Aug 17, 2012
I understand
by: SoSadDad

Sharon, I've lost both of my daughters in the last three years, and there's nothing to compare to this pain. But I have also had to euthanize one dog, and had another pass from an immune deficiency. Both of them were dearly loved, and I still miss them. We have a dog now, Zoie, who is ten. She's generally healthy. But she's our "daughter" now, and I know we will be devastated when she dies. Some bereaved parents are appalled that anyone would even mention the loss of a pet. As I said, there is no comparison. Still, I can remember holding both Harriet and Sadie as they died, and crying like a baby. I am very sorry for your pain. Like we bereaved parents, so we are told, one day you will be able to focus on the good memories and not so much on the pain of the loss. God bless you.

Aug 17, 2012
One Year On
by: Doreen U.K.

Sharon, I am so sorry for your loss of your pet Westie. Please don't feel that you have no right on this site to talk about the loss of a pet. Don't even minimise your loss. Any loss is very painfull. This is your loss and we want to support you here. I have had pets and lost them and the pain is different but also hurts so much. I am over 60 and I still shed tears over the loss of my pet birds. I have often talked on other posts about this grief in support to others going through the same pain. My sister has a Westie and she is dying. My sister is wondering how she is going to cope with this loss. she is dreading this. She got the Westie over 9 years ago when she lost her cat. She was put down, This was a very painfull experience for her. I don't want to keep pets anymore as the pain is too much to bear. I will enjoy them from far. I have over 50 birds come into my garden where they eagerly wait patiently for me to bring them breakfast. This is the highlight of my day and one I will continue to the day I die. I am wondering when I die who will feed my birds. I have asked God beforehand to find someone. If my home was in the middle of an Aviary and birds were flying over my head all the time. I would be a very happy person. It would help my grief. I hope that if you do get another Westie that she will bring you equally the same joy, love, and fond memories.

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