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OTHER GRIEVOUS LOSS

"Grief Is About More Than Just Death"


           


Other grievous loss...

We have had numerous emails from folks grieving the loss of important things in their lives, other than a loved one. Some examples: loss of job/identity, loss of home to tornado or fire, loss of children to divorce, loss of health/mobility and loss of financial security.

They have written in asking for a venue for them to vent about their own special type of bereavement; to contact others with similar losses; and perhaps to help other visitors by reaching out. This new page gives them that outlet.

There is perhaps no other type of grief that is less understood by outsiders. Our hope is this page will help promote understanding of grief from other losses, and provide a unique type of comfort for those in this situation.

Please read the following email from Terri, and you will perhaps better understand "Other Grievous Losses":

        "I suffered the grieving process, but did not lose a person. I was
        shocked to learn it was possible. I just wanted to ask that you have
        a "vent" page for people like me. I was in a car accident that caused
        many broken bones, many surgeries and many months of recovery.
        I was so angry, depressed and stressed that I had to go to a
        councilor who explained it as the grieving process because I had
        lost my independence, freedom and my "not me" belief. I am still in
        recovery and would like to know I am not the only one and maybe
        help someone else to understand."


Have you lost something precious in your life like Terri did? Feel free to post here about any loss in your life that has left you grieving:


Ready to tell your story?
  It's very easy, and there is no cost. Just click in and start writing below:

(*Tip: Compose your story first in Notepad or other simple word processor, make all your corrections, then copy and paste into the box below. We also ask that you please do NOT type in ALL CAPS; but we would appreciate if you did capitalize "I". Thanks so much for following these simple guidelines.)

 




Other Grievous Loss

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What Other Visitors Have Posted

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The Loss of My Husband to Betrayal  Warning: My words come from deep-seated pain and despair. My story is unpleasant and nothing as clearly-defined as the loss of a loved one to death.

My ...

The Loss of me  My sperm doner abandoned my brother and I when I was still an infant. My Mother worked to support us, she worked like it was the only thing that was keeping ...

Young Divorce  I have been divorced now for about a year. My husband and I dated & lived together for 9 years including the year that we were actually married. I have ...

Victoria593 
I've navigated a string of losses and now I face one that I cannot seem to overcome...leaving my children and my home for nearly 30 years. I've lived ...

Sent away 
When I was 15 my mom decided I was too difficult so she sent me away to live with my dad. It meant leaving my home in england, my sister, mother, grandparents,...

Mourning, severe heartache, trying to adjust....  I am 61 years old. I moved here to New Mexico 14 months ago to stay with my daughter and son-in-law while "getting on my feet." I was my mother's caregiver ...

Deceit and Betrayal. My daughter isn't mine?  My ex while I was deployed spent all of our money because of drug use. Not quite knowing of what happen because I gave her control of everything while ...

Happy Holidays?  Grief, well it’s what many of us live daily.

When I was 10, I’m now 55, I came home from school to find my Mom dead. I always bee lined it home because ...

Losing a love  I lost a "boyfriend." I met him online almost a year ago, and we went out a couple of times this summer. We have talked everyday since, either online or ...

I lost my child hood  I was sexually abused since the age of 8 to the age of 16
In counseling I was told I needed to go through the grieving process
I don't know where to ...

Multiple deaths I realized I never fully grieved  When I was one week from graduating high school I had one of my oldest identical twin brothers kill himself. I was young and my parents are great supportive ...

Oddly Enough, "Loss of my Job"  I had been working with a company for 13 years. It was the longest of several jobs I had held, including being in the United States Navy.
I was recently ...

Bogged down in continous loss  Like Terry I too was in a car accident. I went from a strong, healthy, independent person to a semi-invalid. I will never regain a fraction of my health ...

In love with my best friend.   For as long as i can remember I'm in love with this guy. Boyfriends came and went, but I always had a soft spot for him. I never told him, but over the ...

The Cherished Photograph  I have a picture of my mother and I, taken on July 1st at the Canada Day celebrations. We both looked happy and healthy, full of energy and smiling from ...

Grieving for other losses  I too have lost more than a loved one and am grieving as well.

In spring 2009 I lost my job. Shortly afterwards, our youngest daughter and family,...

Lost My Health and Part of Myself  I was a gardener, I was a social worker, I was a runner. When we decided to start a family, I was estatic to become a mother. I couldn't wait to add a ...

The Loss of My Marriage  I am grieving the loss of my kids and my marriage of 7 years. Yes, it wasn’t very long, but her and her 2 year old daughter were my life from the moment ...

Loss of my marriage  I am grieving the loss of my 23 year marriage. Even though the decision to end it was mine I am still grieving. I did not get married at 17 thinking that ...

MY WONDERFUL FATHER-IN-LAW, GONE BEFORE HE DIED  My father-in-law was the sweetest person ever. he loved everyone and everyone loved him. about 3 years ago, he got
Alzheimer's and gradually left us ...

Hoarder  For 13 years or more I have been a hoarder, just recently my niece has cleaned out my carport, shed, and 1 bedroom. Now that she is moving into the living ...

Loss of trust, caused by betrayal  I learned recently that my husband propositioned my sister - almost 2 years ago, and learned subsequently, that he was seen by another sister, out having ...

I "lost" my son when he turned a teenager  I miss my son. He was funny, lovable, loved school, loved learning, wanted to do things with us, spend time with us, talk and ask questions. Then he ...

Loss of Mother and Home  Not only did I lose my Mother 8 months ago but now we have put our house up for sale. I didn't think I would take this so hard. But putting this house ...

Here we go again... :(  I am Terri, the 'grieving the loss of me' author. I was in an accident on Dec 9 2009. I went from bed ridden for three months, to wheelchair for three ...

i lost custody  i had my son for 11 months and he was taken from me because of an abusive relationship i found myself in with the father.

Strike Two  At the tender age of 22 years, I married a man I wasn’t in love with for all the wrong reasons, hoping to discover happiness and avoid parental control....

Too Much, Too Fast!!!  Hi, My name is Allie and I am grieving the loss of multiple friendships. I had the picture perfect summer and got very close with many women at my church....

Not saved from divorce  The basics first, I have been married for 19 years with four children. For the past several years I have felt lonely in my house, even though being around ...

My Wife Raped  This event took place on 12 Jan 2011 I cant even begin to understand her grief now, but I know I need to be there for her. As far as her story goes she ...

A Silent Loss  Last Summer my husband and I after getting married wanted to begin starting our family and we knew we faced challenges due to "Infertility" anyways we ...

Hurtful Decisions  At present, I am going through huge personal family problems.

On top of that, my very good friend of 31 years died not so long ago. She was single ...

I’m sad for what my daughter goes through  I guess I’m grieving what my daughters “normal” is. Why her?

My daughter was born on October 7, 2006 with a condition called Esophageal Atresia /Tracheo-...

a different love and loss  I have always had trust issues. Somehow I learned to live with them and adapt my relationships. That was till I met Him. I am happily married with a small ...

The Day My Appendix Bursted  I was out of town on a work trip, and suppose to be heading back to L.A. I had a somewhat upset stomach all week. When Saturday rolled around and my ...

problem with Adoption  Yes we are hurting, but everyday it gets a little better. It will therapeutic to write out what happened so… it started when my wife and I wanted to start ...

A complicated hysterectomy  Early this past spring I was told by my gynecologist that I needed a hysterectomy. There was a mass of benign cysts causing problems. At first it devastated ...

Out of the Abyss  I have finally left the International Churches of Christ six months ago after being a member for ten years. For ten years that group has been my life. All ...

YaYa  I was involved in a car accident also, and although I was not hurt in the way mentioned above my boyfriend broke his back, his foot, and had a deep gash ...

Abandoned Once More  Eight months after the death of my wonderful husband, I began to experience the searing pain of loneliness.

Through the early months, I'd felt very ...

My Precious Angel  My son is now 23 years old. Bill was always extremely close to us: his mom, dad, and brothers. A strange and controlling relationship began one year ago....

Infidelity-I am lost  No one could have ever told me that my husband's affair with his "admin" and another woman could have cut so deeply. I have lost my foundation of trust ...

Grieving Guatemala  I moved to Guatemala leaving my job, friends, apartment, security, financial stability and my confidence behind. After I got there, the support of the ...

Wondering  I am wondering if I am going through a grieving process. My loved one is in a corrections facility. I have only known this individual for eight or nine ...

Grieving the loss of me  On December 9th 2009 I was on my way to work, in my Suzuki sidekick, and skidded on ice, sliding from the merging lane of the southbound lanes to the middle ...

Abandonment and loss of "living".  5 years ago my boyfriend and I became domestic partners. Things where good and comfortable, we adopted a dog and we dreamed of vacations and activities ...

Year of the Gauntlet  In 2008 I was living the American Dream. I didn't own a 4 & a half BR two story home. But, my husband & I were renting it
at a song. It had come to us ...

letting go and grieving  I wanted my family to be loving supportive and stable while I grew up. They were abusive, dysfunctional, and I was the scapegoat for much of the bad that ...

Self Esteem and Trust  At the age of 7, I moved into primary 5 (year 5)at school and lost what I believe to be my self esteem and trust. My teacher was a young man name APB ...

"I've lost my son, Chunk...Now I've lost everything else!"  Well, it's been 7 yrs. since I've written about the loss of my son, Chunk. I also wrote about my Danny, that shot himself in front of me. I've made plenty ...

My home  My home.

2years ago i lost my home.
Why? is still jelling in me.
why????
it stil hurts that i lost all
i had many feel good feelings there.
the ...

Son Been taken from his mother and never given back!!!!!!  i wrote a story last night about my son i think i didnt put enough in and i would now like to write the real truth behind people who stole my Baby! Im ...

my son!!!!!  when i was 16 i met a man we fell in love and we were married when i was 16 and a half i was pregnant with my daughter which is fine but when i was 19 ...

Sorrow for lost children  It has been over a year.
But it feels like yesterday. And the week before that yesterday there was so much hope. I have a happy photo of myself to remember ...

Attempted Suicide  In the early summer my 'boyfriend' of 5 years attempted suicide in his car while I was out of town. He had moved to be near me and the future looked good ...

My "COOL NEPHEW" Justin (UPDATED Sept. 2010)  My Cool Nephew, his name is Justin.
who made ME feel cool, as we adjusted…

The stories he would tell me, I knew he trusted…
The stories ...



 



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