Our Beloved Bryce

by Eva
(Danbury, CT)

Less than three days have past, and our beloved Lab, Bryce, passed away. He would have been 15, Mar 2. He was with us 24/7 - hiking, boating, vacations. Everywhere we went Bryce went. We even purchased a camper so Bryce could go on all our vacations.

Because he lived to 15, I thought I would accept Bryce's passing but I'm finding it difficult. I did not realize the paralyzing grief I would feel. The quiet and stillness in the house is a heartrending experience. I'm broken, right now, and I don't know how to deal with this overwhelming pain.

To our wonderful boy

I can't pet you anymore
To feel your soft fur against my cheek
I can't pet you anymore
You washed away my pain when the outside world was too cruel
and painful to be part of.
I can't pet you anymore
The unconditional love you gave me - I love you so much

I know there are many of you who feel the same pain I am feeling. Any advice would be so welcomed.


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Jun 07, 2014
Beloved Bryce
by: Eva

Lindy
Thanks so much for thinking of me. I haven't been on this site for a while. It has been four months since Bryce passed. For the first time this year, we went camping. It was bittersweet. We puchased the Airstream so Bryce could go on all our vacations. I missed him so much but it was a busy time with family at Cape Cod. We did not get to do the things we did with Bryce. I held back the tears. I never knew I would become so attached to Bryce. I loved that dog so much. I always told him he was "my dream come true" dog. Like you, I'm not ready to get another. My husband is starting to think we should.
I, too, have started a scrapbook. Some people just don't understand the love we feel for our pets. They are so special.
Thanks for writing.
It is comforting to know you and so many others feel the same about their pets. My thoughs are with you. Eva

May 14, 2014
let yourself grieve...
by: Lindy

it's been three and a half years since I lost my beloved buddy. I still grieve sometimes.
Reading other people's stories here helped a lot and I even made a new friend. I just finished a scrapbook of his pictures. That helped. Knowing that my grief is more than just the loss of my buddy; I lost a LOT then and the one that triggered the most grief was my dog's death and it helped me grieve the rest.
I will always miss that special dog. He was my favorite and I've had a lot of pets. I still haven't been ready to have another dog, but I know that would help too.
Guess I better get the fence fixed. ;)

Feb 10, 2014
Dear Diane & Albin Az
by: Eva

Your words were beautiful. Thank you, all, so much. It helps to know others feel my pain. My thoughts are with you.

Feb 10, 2014
Beautiful Bryce
by: Diane

Our hearts don't know the difference between animal and human when we lose such a wonderful friend and companion, it just breaks in two. There is no way to hurry the grieving process, sometimes it takes a long time before our hearts can heal. The pain can be so bad at times it can take your breathe away.I still burst into tears at times when I think of my sweet little girl, and it's been a year. You had almost fifteen wonderful years with a beautiful soul and you have to remember that to grieve is normal, natural, and necessary. Although his spirit is at the Rainbow Bridge, he'll never be gone,he's alive in your heart. Take care of yourself, I'll pray for you both. RIP beautiful Bryce!

Feb 09, 2014
bryce
by: albin az

eva I am so sorry for the loss of your best friend I can't say I know how you feel because everybody is different I lost my moe and he was only 6 that was last NOV I still have tears in my eyes when I think of him I had to put him to sleep because of a tumor on his heart the pain is still with me but I know I did the right thing but it still hurts I know so many steps you took together may I leave you with this
They walk with us,they sleep with us'

They sit with us when we are blue,

And when it's time for them to go,

A part of us go too

hang in there it does get better but you will always have that small scar

Feb 09, 2014
Heartfelt thanks Doreen,Barb,Denise,Heidi & Jill
by: Eva

Your thoughtful words have comforted me. I will take your advice, and, day by day, I know I will slowly heal. Our loved ones live on within our hearts. I know all of you have felt the pain of grief. My thoughts are with you. Thank you for your kind words.





Feb 08, 2014
Grief
by: Jill

An old saying, which I never really believed, is Time Heals All Wounds.

If you look back on other griefs and pets and people we've lost, it's true. It's as if as time goes by more layers and layers of life, like skin, cover the wound. It will always be a scar and for a long time will hurt if you press it.

Cry. Loudly and often and shake your fists at the sky. You need to replace the hole in your heart with something.......dare I say it??? (give a shelter pup the BEST home)

I love you both.

Feb 08, 2014
in memory of Bryce
by: Heidi

Dear Eva – I’m so sorry about Bryce passing away. He did live a good long life with you and your family. 15 years is remarkable for a larger sized dog. But even though we know we will out live our pets, it doesn’t make it hurt any less - or make us any more prepared. And being with you all these years he was part of your family and there for you every single day. He gave you unconditional love and he received unconditional love from you. Now he’s suddenly gone and it doesn’t seem real. You sound like me where a part of my heart dies along with my pet.

When we’ve lost a pet I just cry. It helped me to talk about memories of the pet with my significant other. All of us were together every day and we have so many wonderful memories. Another thing that helped me was to assemble a photo album of our pet. I put it in chronological order for the years that went by. Just going though and selecting photos brought back fond memories and was so comforting. I’d write a message about my pet in the front cover and then fill the album with photos and keep it near.

It will get less painful with time. But it will take time. Your love for Bryce and memories will comfort you along the way. I believe that God loves all animals and brings them up to Heaven with Him. I pray I will someday be reunited with my significant other and all my pets that I’ve lost over the years. I still think about and miss the ones that died when I was growing up. I pray for comfort for you as you grieve.

Feb 08, 2014
Doreen
by: Eva

Thank you so much for your heartfelt words. You have truly help me.

I find myself in the middle of work and the tears just start flowing. I know,as the days go by, I will get better. I have no choice. I wish someone could convince me that I will be with him again.

Feb 08, 2014
My deepest sympathies
by: Denise

Hi Eva, I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my beautiful cat Gazoo of 17 years in 2011, and found this site to be very comforting. Here is a link to my page, with some helpful comments from caring people:

http://www.recover-from-grief.com/where-are-you1.html

Keep breathing, and be kind to yourself. It will take some time before you can think of Bryce without sorrow, and only with happy memories.

Denise

Feb 08, 2014
Dear Eva,
by: Anonymous

I am so sad for you and your family. My pets mean the world to me, and I know how you feel. Our Lab was 13 when she passed away, my husband got her when she was 7 weeks old. Even though it has been almost 10 years, she is always in our thoughts. They are faithful friends for sure, and there is no love like their unconditional love. It sounds like your Bryce had a long and exciting life. What a beautiful gift it is to able to enjoy such wonderful times together with such a loyal friend. You will be in my thoughts, Barb

Feb 08, 2014
Our Beloved Bryce
by: Doreen UK

Eva People and Pets are the fabric of our life. We derive pleasure from being with each other. Whether Pet or person they give meaning and value to our life. WE Bond with them. They are the very essence of Life. WE can't even imagine what life will be without them till this happens.
The pain you describe is the very worst we can ever experience. Often we wish someone could come and make it all better and take this pain away from us because it is so unbearable, that we can't bear it anymore. WE all go through it after a loss. WE don't know how to handle it and how to let go of it. Grief is something we have to go THROUGH. WE didn't do this to ourselves. I express my grief as being in an explosion and I am trying to get up and live life as if this didn't happen. I CAN'T. Another experience feels as if I am slowly hemoraghing and I can't stop the bleeding from my heart and it hurts so much I would do anything to not feel like this. I then learnt on this site to TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME. Even ONE MOMENT. Just don't deny our grief or postpone it. Cry, often. This is one way to wash away the pain. You will find that each day you will start to feel stronger. BUT don't feel you are done with grief. Grief will rise at a time when you least expect. You may be in a place or company where it won't be convenient to show emotion or tears. But just don't repress this. I cried on the bus, train, Bank, supermarket. walking down the road. But after each tear I felt release from the pain and I felt stronger till the next time. This is how healing takes place. SLOWLY. But you will eventually Heal from your grief. WE are all waiting for that day when we will be done with grief. We will keep losing people and pets as long as we live. Just don't deny yourself another pet. Bryce had a special place in your heart. You can in time establish a new relationship with another pet. I am sorry for your loss of Bryce.

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