Our Moma's Gone

by Terry
(Montgomery, Alabama)

Mother had only been home a week after traveling to spend the Christmas holidays with me and my wife. She loved coming to Alabama for Christmas, so she said. Maybe she just wanted to be with her baby boy. Her first major trip after knee replacement surgery. Other than that, the picture of health. I can't remember a visit when we laughed so loud or had so much fun. Mother was anticipating the BCS championship game between Alabama and Notre Dame. She was looking forward to an extra trip to Alabama in May to see her baby boy receive his Master's Degree. I was on my way to my second job on January 3 when I received a call from my older brother. He said he had some bad news I had better sit down.He said "our Momma's gone". Her husband talked to her before he left his job that day. She was in the kitchen preparing dinner. He came home to find the house engulfed in smoke and mother dead on the kitchen floor from what we would later find to be a brain aneurysm.It's almost been 9 months since that day. I still can't believe this has happened.I feel the same today as the day I received the call. Its as if the very purpose of my existence is gone.I feel like I'm just going through the motions of life. There is no more joy. I know I will never get over losing my mother. I will simply live out the remainder of my life mourning the loss of the greatest friend I ever had, my biggest fan, the greatest mother. God made man to suffer. By taking my mother, he has made certain I will.

Comments for Our Moma's Gone

Click here to add your own comments

Sep 20, 2013
Our Moma's Gone
by: Anonymous

I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother. I lost my father to sudden cardiac arrest in January. Similarly, he collapsed, and was gone. I also remember getting the phone call from my mother. The whole day is still crystal clear in my mind. I miss him so much and am in so much pain, that only the people here could understand. I know exactly how you feel. But I think God has a reason for all of this. We are not meant to understand it now, we must just have faith. It is very hard for me at times, because I have so many questions, but I am not meant to know the answers yet. I hope you find comfort here. You are not alone. Wishing you Peace, Barb

Sep 17, 2013
our momma's gone
by: silver

First off let me tell you that I know how you feel.My mom and I began to become friends when I was a senior in high school.That developed over the years,esp when I had children.She was there for each of the births.When I moved to Alabama(north)31 yrs ago I lived only 22 miles from her.We spent holidays at her house as well as other times.I miss her so much.My mom died June 2010 so very quickly.She got up to go to the bathroom and just fell over dead.The dr's say it was a blood clot to her lungs.This came from sitting and hardly moving during the 7 months after my father died.Secondly,I am deeply religious and I believe GOD does not take our loved ones to hurt us.I don't believe GOD made us to suffer.I believe he loves us,otherwise why would he have sacrificed himself for us.I believe he has a plan for each of us and maybe there was something later that she wouldn't be able to handle or some pain she would have had to bear.I certainly don't know.I don't know how you believe but my faith in GOD is what has helped me in the past.I sent my father,my mother,my friend of 28yrs,and my husband on in 17 months.I have buried my youngest sister and two grandchildren.Therapy helped for awhile and gave me some tools to help me onward.This site has been my saving grace.It REALLY helps when there are people who have been or are where your are at.People who don't tell you to get over it already.Grief has several stages and the length of them is different for all of us. I write poetry,like some of the others here.Some write journals of how there day went and how they feel.Some find someone they can be themselves with and have a shoulder to cry on.Just don't try to bottle it up.Grief is normal.Feeling guilty for what you wish you had or had not done is normal.Everything you feel is normal.I wish I could be there for you so you would know you are not alone.Even after all this time I still cry on occasion.I still have triggers.I try to focus on the wonderful times we did have.GOD bless you,send you strength and peace.I keep all of us in my prayers.

Sep 14, 2013
Our Moma's Gone
by: Doreen U.K.

Terry I am sorry for your loss of your precious Moma. All those future memories lost. Having to pick yourself up and go on in life is so very difficult. 9 months is too soon to start feeling Healed. If you find yourself struggling you can try a few sessions with a grief counsellor. You will learn strategies to lessen your pain and help you move forward. But Grief is a journey and a time frame. When grief starts it is so very painful it feels as if it will last forever, but it doesn't.
I lost my husband to cancer 16 months ago and I only got through my grief ONE DAY AT A TIME. I still have bad days, especially every Saturday the day of the week he died. All those memories come back as if it was yesterday. I don't make those memories come back. They are just there. I try and replace my bad memories with new one's. I do special things for myself by nurturing myself back from grief and it helps a lot. It is about doing things that will make us feel better. But you still have to deal with your grief. It does get better in time. Because of SIN in the world we have DEATH. God didn't create death for us to suffer. This is why he sent His son Jesus Christ to die for us so that we could have eternal life which is to come. this is future. Jesus had to rise from his death so that we can live. This is future. Hold onto this HOPE. It will help you get through each day.

Click here to add your own comments

Return to Lost Moms.

[?]Subscribe To This Site
  • follow us in feedly
  • Add to My Yahoo!
  • Add to My MSN
  • Subscribe with Bloglines

RSS Feed Widget


Tap into the compassion, support and wisdom of the


Essential Healing Guide

Grief Relief

Free Griefwork

Free Stress

SBI Video Tour!