Poster Children for Tragedy

by Cookie

Our father was murdered in 1991. Senseless. I don't think I have ever gotten over that day. He was the best father a daughter could have. We had a great relationship. I will never forgot what he brought to my life. I still cry to this day when I think of him.

Our mother died suddenly in June 2011. Her death was horrible. In hospital for minor stuff and died from a ruptured ulcer. Don't understand why the doctors didn't see this catastrophic event about to happen. She was my best friend, North Star. I loved her very much.

We feel cheated because of these events but grateful that we had them for the time we did. We are the good people they molded us to be. No one can ever prepare you for the loss of your parents ever and no one can ever take that relationship from you if you were fortunate to have a good relationship with your parents.

We are orphaned adults now as difficult as it is. Grief takes a long time. This is a new life now and working through it takes time. Where this road leads us we do not know but hopefully we will find peace and happiness again someday.

God bless to each of you who have lost your parents. My heart goes out to you.

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Oct 22, 2011
Your Precious Dad
by: Cookie


I wept as I wrote of my double grief, one that I have never known, no one could have prepared me for, but I smiled at your comments. I am so sorry for your loss. Your father was special I know.

I can tell you that no matter how old you are it is devastating to say the least when you lose your best friends. There is no one that can make you feel better and there is no one that will ever love you or care about like your parents. No one.

There is no time limit my friend on your grief, remember that. I have grieved for my Dad since he died. It took me all those years to get to a better place, but I was preoccupied with my other best friend. None of us fully got over the loss of not having Dad around.

Don't expect people around you to understand what you are going through if they still have their parents. It is just not possible. They have to take the journey and one day they will. It's been a long journey for me and my siblings and now we begin again losing Mom. Oh my.

My heart goes out to you because I know how your body feels, your heart aches, and the tears are relentless. The bond between you and the North Star is broken. You'll search for the answers and although they may never come you will physically feel better in time.

Thank you for your comments. Here is a a big hug to you. If you still have your Mom love and help her when you feel a little better every chance you can. Her world is totally shattered also but in a different way from ours. I wish you the best. Write again if you want to.

Hugs & Prayers,

Cookie in Virginia

Oct 21, 2011
Your Letter is Beautiful
by: Geoffrey Campbell

I could so feel your compassion and sadness that I wept, but I also was touched greatly by your statement of appreciation for having them when you did, I just lost my Father and the grief is so great, and reading your letter is helping me. Thank you so much for sharing.

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