Preventable death

by Amanda

My daughter was 37 when she died from pneumonia . She had been a drug addict for many years, she had 4 children the eldest boy was brought up by his fathers family, the other 3 children came to live with me usually before their 1st birthday, her life style was chaotic and she found it hard to cope. A beautiful clever and big hearted girl, full of fun and laughter. But for years she battled her demons . She was living with her partner of two weeks and went for a lie down at approx 2-30pm and didn't "really" wake again, her boyfriend thought she was just very tired and didn't call for help until 10-40 on Sunday morning (approx 44 hours after she lay down on the Friday). The paramedics pronounced her dead at the scene. The boyfriend said he didn't leave her and wasn't under the influence of any thing that may have impaired his judgement. The official verdict was such a shock, how could it have happened unnoticed, I find it hard to rest 17 months after her passing.

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Sep 11, 2014
Your daughter
by: Kate

I'm so sorry you lost your child. My son died at 39 and it is so very hard to accept! No mother should have to know this pain.
It is so deep within us. I find no comfort but come here where I am understood but we grieve together. May our creator help us. Their struggle is over now and they are in peace. Our hearts are broken. Take each day slowly and keep her love close to you.

Sep 11, 2014
Preventable death
by: Doreen UK

Amanda I am sorry for your loss of your daughter to a sudden death. Perhaps she left hospital too soon after pneumonia and sent home where she died. I have just recovered from pneumonia and send home within hours with antibiotics that didn't work. I ended up back in hospital still with severe breathing difficulties and swollen legs getting worse and now awaiting heart checks, and lung function tests in 3 weeks. A bad experience for me. Our hospitals are struggling with lack of resources and A&E departments in many hospitals now closing in the London area of U.K. which is responsible for more and more deaths. In the days gone by pneumonia was seen as a serious disease and one was put in an oxygen tent for some months and never discharged in the way we are today. This could have been a contributing factor in your daughter's death which could have been preventable if proper medical care was given before a patient is discharged. You may have to weigh up all the options and not just if the boyfriend had been more vigilant. Grief is what it is. Painful and a lot of guilt around. See a CRUSE bereavement counsellor if you think this will help you move forward better.

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