problem with Adoption
We had them over to our house to meet & my wife & I both thought they were very sincere about wanting to have us parent their child. After we met with their parents & talked with them a second time we decided to go for it and shut down the fertility and start the adoption process. We researched adoption agencies and went with Lutheran Social Services and put in our application & did all the home studies, background checks and had our friends write letters of recommendation. As the pregnancy progressed my wife and I were very much involved with the birth-mom, she wanted us to go to all the doctor appointments and once in awhile we would have them over to our house. About 4 months into the pregnancy(b-mom) asked us to co-sign a lease for an apartment because she had to move. I talked about having her move into our home instead; we have extra room so she did move into our home. She lived with us for the next 3 months, not once in this time did she ever waiver from wanting to go back to college and go back to being an 18 year old when this was over. As we got closer to the due date, b-mom moved into a house with her dad & Holli and I started to get the house ready for a baby. We went out and bought new furniture for the nursery & decorated the baby’s room; we went out and bought cloths, bottles, everything you need for a baby. We were so excited to be parents. B-mom was having complications with high blood pressure & we started going to the doctor 2-3 times a week, sometimes in the middle of the night because she was in a lot of pain from bad headaches. About 6 weeks early, the doctor told us they were going to induce and we were having a baby in the next couple days. At the hospital everything was perfect, Kerstin said to me that I was going to be taking home my son soon. Holli and I got a room right across the hallway from the B-parents in the hospital and after Aiden was born everyone was so happy and the baby was perfectly healthy and everyone was doing well. That night we had the baby in our room, we were very happy & at ease with the whole situation, not at anytime did we think she was having second thoughts. The next morning our attorney met with the b-parents & they signed the custody documents, He said they signed without hesitation. After another long night at the hospital it was time to go home, we were excited to get the baby home & it seemed like everything was working out as planned. The day we got out of the hospital, the b-mom and dad went over to LLS and signed the consent forms. When Holli and I talked to LLS & they said that they signed everything and seemed happy that it was over & they talked about starting college soon. So we were feeling better & better with each passing day. We had the baby for 12 days before we got the call from LLS that she changed her mind & that she was coming to pick up the baby. This was on the 8th business day after she signed, so legally there was nothing we could do, she gets 10 business days. She said that she did not want to go through life wondering what he was doing (even though it was an open adoption). I asked her how she planned on taking care of a baby with no job & no money & no stable place to live; she said she would apply for welfare. She took baby and left and we have not heard from them since. It’s been a roller coaster of emotions for us, but we are doing fine. We know that everything happens for a reason and that God has different plans for us.
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