Remembered Joy

by Janet
(Dallas, Tx)

Remembered Joy
Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free!
I follow the plan God laid for me.
I saw His face, I heard His call,
I took His hand and left it all...
I could not stay another day,
To love, to laugh, to work or play;
Tasks left undone must stay that way.
And if my parting has left a void,
Then fill it with remembered joy.
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss...
Ah yes, these things I, too, shall miss.
My life's been full, I've savoured much:
Good times, good friends, a loved-one's touch.
Perhaps my time seemed all too brief—
Don't shorten yours with undue grief.
Be not burdened with tears of sorrow,
Enjoy the sunshine of the morrow.

It has been 3 months and a week since I loss my husband Jim unexpectedly in Belize Central America. I was looking for the Irish Blessing this afternoon on the internet and came across this on the Island Ireland site along with so much more. This one I thought was well passing on to all who are traveling this journey we call grief. For indeed it is a journey that is long and hard. It is a journey that we all must make at some point in our life, some of us just sooner than others.
Grief affects us all in different ways and we all handle it differently. What might be right for one is not always right for the other. I am thankful that I found this site and I return to it often to read where others are in this journey and it helps to know that one day I will get there also.
As I sit here writing this the poem by Robert Frost "The Road Not Taken" came to mind. It is a road I have not traveled before with this much pain and loneliness. I have traveled it with losing loved ones along the way, but their passing cannot compare to this road we are traveling on now. I wish we did not have to travel this road during our life time but the loss of our spouse, soul mate, companion and friend is not something we can escape though I wish we could.

I leave all of you with a simple prayer:
May you all make this journey safely. May God hold each of you in the palm of his hand as you travel this unfamiliar territory. God bless and keep you all. May we all find peace as we travel this long road called grief. May you each remember the joys and sorrows and know that you are not alone in this. I ask that God be near you at the start of each new day. I ask to grant you health and blessings and friends to share your way but for His loving care I pary the most of all.

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Mar 04, 2014
In Remembrance of My Little Irish Girl.
by: Anonymous

My Wife passed on almost three years ago. There is no forgetting any of our life's blessings. These memories are our treasure of it all. We live our lives daily, as if she were still with us and sometime imagine in our own way that she is. As sound a place and it all returns and engulfs us at least for that moment, and it all passes and leave us wondering. She will always be remembered especially in our daily prayers. We are reminded that life is a minute at the moment and then it passes and we must move on to our final reward. We must never lose that lest we are lost in the process of forgetting.

Feb 09, 2012
by: Janet

Hi Trish,

Thank you for your comments. I still have my good days and my bad days. The good days are becoming more frequent and the bad not as often. I still find myself crying ever so often when I touch his picture but I know that he is in the good hands and that God will take care of him till I can join him.
Life is not fair to us and we learn to make our way as best we can. I know that you are still grieving but remember we are here for you. If you ever want to talk one on one I would be more than willing to do that. It seems that the people I thought were friends, except for one co-worker, have suddenly disappeared into the wood work, so to speak. The friends I can count on are many miles from me and I cannot wait until I can return to Belize to be with them all. They are there when I need them and they do not ask questions. They are more than willing to listen to you and give you their support. I wish we all had friends life that here in the States.
We cannot change what has happened to us. All we can do is to learn to accept it and try try to go on with our life, however painfull it is. We did not ask for this, but we must all learn to deal with it in our own way.
I think my one saving grace is that I have been in therapy before and I remember and put the majority of it to use in my everyday life. The one thing that keeps me going is "I will not be a victim of grief or this pain". Unfortunately, if we are not careful we do become a victim to it and all it does is to bring us down.
My wish for you is that "May you find comfort in knowing that there are others out there that share your grief and sorrow."
Please feel free to let me know if you should ever want to correspond on a one on one basis. I would be more than happy to help you and me travel this journey together.

Feb 09, 2012
We So Often Forget To Be Thankful
by: TrishJ

Thank you so much for this post. I continue to struggle with my grief after 14 months. I miss my husband so much. I do have to remind myself several times a day that he had a beautiful life full of love, children, grandchildren. His life should be celebrated. I think I'm mostly feeling sorry for myself because I miss him so and depended on him for so much.
Yes.....we have to remind ourselves that the deaths are all part of this life.....God's plan. We just have to accept it and do the best we can.
Thanks again. Beautiful words.

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