Roses in Heaven.

by Trish Jones

My first weekend in my new apartment. I've been on the verge of tears all day. I'm really alone. My daughter has literally refused to talk about her dad since his death 6 months ago. It's really bothered me. She turned 30 the day after he died. She is getting married in September and her brother will walk her down the aisle.

I just went on facebook out of total boredom and this is what she posted just 12 minutes before I saw it.

"Copy and paste this if your DAD is in heaven. If roses grow in heaven Lord, then pick a bunch for me. Place them in my dad's arms and tell him they're from me. Tell him that I love and miss him, and when he turns to smile, place a kiss upon his cheek and hold him for a while..."

So now the tears are flowing, because I miss him so much and now I know she does too. She's just handling this grief thing in her own way.

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Jun 19, 2011
Thanks Hope, Thanks Mary
by: TrishJ

Mary and Hope
Thank you so much for your wonderful comments and continue support. You are two awesome ladies that I would really love to have the privilege to meet some day. We truly are............
Sisters in Grief.
Blessings to you.

Jun 19, 2011
Roses in Heaven
by: M Mack


I live on the northshore of Chicago and work just west of the loop. It's amazing how connected we really are not only by our grief and this website. Some of us may pass each other on the train, at a restaurant, shopping mall....we do not wear our grief on our faces and it is not identifiable by a passerby. Your daughter is doing what she feels is the best thing for you. She's concealing her pain so you will not get wrapped up in her sadness, allowing you to work through yours. Sorting through your new life can be difficult. You can see she is relating to friends on facebook for support, and they will not invade her privacy. Don't be offended and be patient. When the time is right you will talk this out, cry and clear the air together. For now, hang in there let the grief take you where it needs to go. You will make it through this. Sending you my prayers and hugs.

Jun 18, 2011
Roses in Heaven


Although we feel a bond of emotions where grief is concerned we really do handle grief in our own ways. I am amazed at how you have been handling grief. You realize what you must go through and what you hope to attain. I still have my rough days at a year and a half. But things are getting better a few snags now and then as memories pop up but the recover time is quicker thankfully.

In the beginning I thought much like you but thought those still going through grief at a year/ 2 years were stuck. They/I am not stuck it is a huge adjustment going from we to me. We will be proud of all that we accomplished it is a feat of courage surviving grief. And to make our lives worth living after our loss is something that we can and should do.
My best to you and your family always...

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