Ryan Michael Robert Stanley, 28
by Jacquie Stanley
My son, my buddy, my heart, you left us May 1st 2014. You were the best son a mother could ever ask for. I am eternally grateful for the 28 yrs I was lucky enough to have here with you on earth. It's hard to write because I can't seem to find words to express how horrible this all is for me. To lose a son period is horrific but to lose a son to heroin addiction
is so incredibly senseless! When he finally told me of his addiction he said he just did a few party drugs with his friends. He had an amazing group of friends, these were NOT low life kids. Ryan said he was addicted to opiates before he even knew what happened(he didn't understand why it didn't happen to his friends although he was glad it didn't) The course of his addiction was so typical. He could no longer afford the opiates so he moved to heroin which is cheaper. He waited too long to tell us because he was so ashamed and he didn't want to disappoint or trouble us. That was so Ryan, always looking out for his family. He got a tattoo when he
was 18 that said "family values" across his chest. He lived that until the day he died. When our family was struggling financially because I became disabled with a back issue he worked so hard and gave us his paychecks to try and help save our house. He was only in his early 20's when he was doing that. I didn't want to take his money but he insisted. That was my Ryan. He always put our family, his friends and everyone else first. He was the epitome of unconditional love. He lived it every day. Over 300 people came to his Life Celebration, all ages and from all walks of life including his high school Spanish teacher and our car mechanic.
Even grandparents of his friends were there. Not ONE person, on facebook, in person, or at his Life Celebration mentioned his addiction. NOT ONE. People spoke only about how kind and truly special he was and the positive impact he had had on their lives.What a tribute to my son. I struggle now to believe that he was an elevated soul who had finished his works here on earth and it was simply time for him to return to his heavenly father. I trust that he is no longer in pain and struggling with his demon addiction. I pray for his peace and all those who have succumbed to the monster heroin. It robbed him of his future, it robbed all of us who loved him of having him in our lives, it took away his ability to find a true love, get married and have children (something he
wanted very badly) and it robbed him of his very life! That said, I miss him every second of every hour of every day! My heart breaks anew each morning. I don't know how to do this so I simply be and hope time will reduce this horrendous pain. I have to try and move ahead because I know that is what Ryan wants for me. I hope one day I can find some happiness again. Please pray for peace for my beautiful son Ryan Michael and strength for me.