Sad on Mothers Day

by Judith in California

It was Mother's day 2006 my husband had a TIA when we were out at a nice restaurant . He always made sure I had a nice day. We would dress up and go out. My handsome man as always. He knew my son always waited until the last minute to call me because he felt he shouldn't have to tell me happy mother's day on a designated day, blah, blah, blah. Anyway while we were out my husband had this weird grayish look and then began sweating and lost his focus so we had to leave the restaurant and go home . He was fine then and told me not to worry because I was crying , so afraid he was going to die.

We got home and he rested. That was the last Mother's day he was to take me out.

On May 10th 2007 he fell due to his Parkinson's and fractured his skull and in September of 2010 he passed away. So he will never be here to make sure I had a nice Mother's day. My son hasn't called me yet and it's 11:18 a.m.

I'm sad and missing my husband.

If I could tell couples anything it would be to love and care for one another fiercely and daily. Never argue over the same old things. If you can't resolve it let it go. Ask each other is it so important that if one of you died would it matter? Live each day knowing you have no regrets of saying or doing something that hurt each other. AND if you do , then learn to say I'm sorry before it's too damn late. Bring God into your lives lives and live by his expectations.

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May 11, 2011
A word for"Sad on Mother's Day"
by: Marcia

I've just read your letter and I can feel your pain. My mother is in England taking care of her sister who went under a shoulder operation. When mum was in Brazil, our home town/country, we spoke every day. Now we speak every other day or every two days. My fear is to lose her or any one of my family. And while I read these words of yours I felt a loneliness and a heart crying out.
My friend just lost her uncle and that's how I end up on this site because in this moment we don't want to say the wrong thing to hurt a person in pain even more.
I'm so grateful for your life you just taught me that there are things more important to do and say to our love ones than just to brag about and make one unhappy.
Your son not calling as yet (at that moment) doesn't mean he's forgotten you. A mom never comes out of a child's head.
God bless you richly and remember what you just said that we need God in our lives.
Psalm 23:1
You're not alone.
Love you.


May 10, 2011
Missing My Husband Too
by: TrishJ

I've said before my husband wasn't always the most romantic guy but holidays were always special. He knew I loved flowers so there were always flowers of some type. I asked him to please stop sending me roses since I had to pay for them once the credit card bill arrived (out of my household budget). We always had a credit card for fun things but he always put them on "my card."
These holidays! I still have many firsts to get through, our anniversary, my birthday, his birthday, our son's birthday. Joe passed away on December 3, 2010. My daughter's 31st birthday was the next day, December 4th. This definitely is the grief cha cha. I've taken two many steps back the last week or so. Mother's day hurt.
Take care and God bless. We are all here for each other. One breath, one step.

May 09, 2011
Right on target
by: CH

I am sorry for your loss. I lost my husband in December 2010.
I just wanted to tell you that your advice to other couples is perfect and right on target.
Blessings to you!

May 09, 2011
Memories of Mothers Day past...
by: Anonymous

Paul always made a big to do at Mothers day too.
Oh it would be last minute, He would "Need" something at Walmart on Sunday Morning and come home with the most pitiful flower arrangement left. Usually the blooms fell as I placed them in the vase. But it was the memories the consideration he had for me on that day and others. Making me a special meal usually shrimp and steak. I do miss that, feeling so very special, spoiled and definitely queen for a day.

Mothers Day was full of memories. Even as my children called and the remaining child tried to make it a special day, The Mothers Day's of the past came home to haunt me. Another Holiday that brings back memories. Please let the new memories in and allow the old memories to please me not destroy me...

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