Septic shock caused organ failure

by Bonnie

My mom was 68 years old, not in the best of health, diabetic ,on dyalis and had a gastric sleeve done one year prior to loose weight, but thats where the trouble begin with her. She never was able to keep anything down after that she lost so much weight she became malnourished . This is when she was down to 115 lbs her doctor decided to put a feeding tube in surgically and she went into septic shock in the recovery room. My sister and I were told to fly to see her because she wouldn't survive. When we arrived she was on life support. My father, brother sister and I talked to the doctors after she had been hooked up to life support for a week. The doctors said there's a 5 percent chance she would make it out of the hospital and then it would be hooked up to a ventilator and dyalis is machine to a nursing home for about thirty days and then return to the hospital to die. Then there's the brain damage to consider she's been without oxygen to the brain and unresponsive for a week so there's some brain damage too. With all this to consider we decided to end life support. My mom had sign a paper stating she didn't want to live in a state like this so we ended her life support, it was a terrible hard decision but at the same time it was hard watching all the thing being done to her knowing it was for nothing...putting her thru all that for nothing. My father couldn't be in the room when we ended life support he just couldn't, so we said we would. It was really hard. The doctors unhooked all life support and she died eight hours later. It was a very hard eight hours for us to get thru we never imagine she would survive that long without life support. We thought she would die within a few minutes . The doctors said it could take a few hours for some people and even a few days for others.

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Apr 18, 2014
Your mom
by: Kate

I'm so sorry you lost you mother in such a sad way. It is very hard. My mother died at 50 years old,it was sudden. My father had the feeding tube and all the stress that goes with that for 6 months and died when it was removed at 82. No matter how or what age,it hurts deeply. My son died at 39 just a year and 5 months ago, then my sister died at 70, three weeks later with the feeding tube thing as well. Death is so hard,my heart goes out to all of you.

Apr 17, 2014
Septic shock caused organ failure
by: Doreen UK

Bonnie I am sorry for your loss of your Mom. This is such a painful loss for all of you as a family. There is nothing worse than watching your loved one die and there is nothing you can do about it. Having to make such a decision to end life support is hard to do. When my husband was dying of cancer I had to watch him fade slowly over 3yrs. and it was the most painful battle I have ever been through. My heart goes out to your father having to go on alone without his wife. Life is so very unpredictable. WE just go on each day not knowing what is round the corner for us and who we are going to lose from our close family unit.
I sit alone with my sorrow as others do having lost a loved one. It will be 2yrs. next weeks and it feels longer. My sister says that I will get used to living alone. I can't ever imagine getting used to life alone. Taking one day at a time is the only way forward.

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