She was the light of our family

by Debora Morale
(New York City)

I know that I was almost 39 years old when my mother passed but I felt like I was 10 years old. My mother was always sick, since I was a little girl. She had Crohns disease and was always in pain and in and out of surgeries her whole life. I almost lost her once when I was 21 she got septasemia from a blockage in her intestine. She overcame that battle and went on. No matter how much pain my mother was in she always did all of the holidays (the whole family would come over), all of the housework and went back to work until she could no longer.

She was there for me with such unconditional love that nothing or no one could ever replace

This is how the end started. She was getting very bad headaches so she went for a cat scan which came back positive for a brain tumor. It was supposedly benign so she went for the operation to remove it. What they didn't do was a thorough preop because the year prior she had a stomach operation. They though that she would be fine. She came through the surgery with flying colors so we thought all was great. She still continued to have headaches so she was bed ridden for weeks. It turns out that she had vascular disease and because of all the bed rest all her veins closed!!!

She was rushed to the emergency room where they operated immediately to try to open the veins. It was to late they had to amputate her leg. I was never able to talk to my mother again. One week later her heart gave out and she passed. I couldn't eat, sleep or barely breathe. My kids were confused because they were still small 8 and 5. Their beloved Nana never came home from the hospital. I wish that i could have talked to her one more time, I wish that just one year of her life was pain free. I wish I was a better daughter. Most of all I wish that I could just hug her one more time and tell her that I love her.

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Oct 12, 2012
Thank you
by: Debora

Thank you for your kind works

Jun 28, 2012
She was the light of our family
by: Doreen U.K.

I am sorry for your loss of your mother. It doesn't matter how old you are. We will still grieve for the loss of our loved ones. A mother is a very significant person in a childs life and the loss will be immense. A mother is also a very significant part of an Adult child's life and even mothers will never stop worrying about their adult children till the day they die.
I am sure by your caring post that your mother loved you very much and it is part of the grief to wish we had been better people and were more supportive. You are honouring your mother now in death and this is how you will grieve.
Life is painfull. Death is even more painfull. We get through this one day at a time. It is a very lonely place to be right now. I lost my husband 7 weeks ago and it feels like 7 months. I miss him so much. I am watching the football for him. But he should be here sitting with me having a cup of tea and shouting for his team to win. It is the familiar things on a daily basis that hurt so much. We find it hard to move from day to day with memories resurfacing. Best wishes for the days and months ahead in your grief journey.

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