Shock and Soon

by Stephanie
(Macon, Georgia)

It has been four months since I buried my loving husband. The pain still feels like it was yesterday. My husband and I were married last year in August 2010 and his burial occurred eight days before our first wedding anniversary…A Shock and Too Soon.

Five months after our marriage, my husband was diagnosed with Lymphoma cancer. Doctors stated that due to his otherwise good health the prognosis was good and we could be married for another 15 to 20 years or more. He went through his six cycles of chemotherapy like a champion. He was seldom sick just occasionally tired with no hair or weight loss (he would joke that he was instead gaining weight).

Days after the last treatment the shock began as he developed an infection. He was hospitalized and five days later in intensive care on a ventilator. I prayed like never before believing for his healing. How could God finally send such a wonderful man of God to me and he is gone not even a year later? He died a little over a week later.

The pain and grief seem unbearable at times yet I am reminded of the awesome blessing of having him in my life. I seek to embrace and cherish the quality versus quantity. I look forward to ordering your “Back to Life” grief handbook as I try to continue life. Daily I hurt and view his passing as ‘A Shock Too Soon’, but I know that I am blessed to have experienced his great love and will always cherish his memory in my heart.

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Dec 16, 2011
Too soon
by: M Mack


I'm so sorry you lost him so soon in life. When you finally think its all ok, your happy and so in love it's taken from you. I don't know if you've read any of the other postings but you should. Many will bring you to tears but those tears help to refresh your soul like a good cleansing. You need to cry, go through the stages of grief and know you will come out the other side stronger than ever. The first 6 months for me were unbearable. I thought I was loosing it all together and I prayed so hard for help to deal with my sadness. Alter over a year, I can finally deal with this but I will never be the same. I will always love him and I know he is with me in spirit. Hang in there and keep your faith. Don't be hard on yourself and do whatever it takes to get through this. Sending a prayer and hug your way.

Dec 16, 2011
Too soon
by: Judy


I also lost my beloved too soon although we were blessed with nine years before he was taken. He's been gone two years now. Right now nothing is going to ease the pain for you but I want you to believe and know that over time the pain softens and life will get better again. Just take care of yourself and let grief take you where it will. There's no point in fighting it grief will always win out. Hang on for the ride. You are in a good place here with others who understand how you are feeling. You are right to focus on the good times you had with him, they will take you through the rough times.


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