so happy, yet so sad

by Donna

My oldest daughter had her baby 2-10-11. His name is Bryan Scott. Bryan after my husband and Scott after his daddy's father, who has also passed away. This should be the happiest time of my life. He is so beautiful, he has Bryan's nose. I stood in the hospital room yesterday and was holding him and talking to him and had to put him down so that I could go to the corner and cry. I just broke down. There are so many things that only grandpa can teach him and he will miss that. He will miss out on meeting the best man in the world, Bryan, his grandpa. This is not fair. My youngest daughter is very sad and upset also, because when she has kids they will never get to know their grandpa. My daughters and I will teach him everything about grandpa, but its just not the same. Why, why, oh why does it have to be this way? He was such a great grandpa to Johnny and Mikie. But they are so young (just turned 3 & 4) that they probably won't be able to remember grandpa. This is such a great tragedy. I never knew that a person could be so happy yet so sad. But unfortunately I have had to learn this lesson in life.

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Feb 19, 2011
I know....
by: Jess

Donna...I am not a Grandma, but I congratulate you on your new bundle of joy :) I lost my husband of 15 years in May of 09. We had a beautiful God Daughter, whom we had 2 to 3 times a week overnight, she even had her own room in our house, We were never able to have children of our own. She was our miracle in every way. She was 9 months old when her Papa died. He used to get up with her in the morning, I can still remember listening to them on the baby monitor...his soft voice wishing her a good morning, and her soft coos at him. She loved him, and he loved her. That was their special time together. I promised him the day that I let him go, that she would know him. That she would know his love for her. Its all we can do.....put one foot in front of the other and breathe.....teach the values that they held dear...its their way of living on. Peace be with you.

Feb 13, 2011
Congratulations Grandma:)
by: TrishJ

Donna~what a blessing a new grandson. I have three. My husband passed away on December 3rd. I'm just coming out of the shock.
Yesterday I had breakfast with my oldest grandson who will be 11 next month He took a dollar bill and showed me how grandpa taught him to fold it to make a mushroom out of George Washington's head. "And grandpa showed me where there is a key in the print of a dollar bill." Today he said, "Grandma I wish it was two years from now so none of cry over grandpa anymore. I miss him so much."
The thing that breaks my heart is that my two and three year old grandsons won't remember their grandpa. He loved them so. He didn't want to leave us. I have to make sure the little guys don't forget their grandpa and let them know all the time how much he loved them.
All we can do is love those grandchildren, thank God for their good health, remind them often what wonderful grandpas they had, and live our lives to make grandpa proud.
Hugs and blessings to you, your children and grandchildren. They truly are lifes greatest blessing.

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