SOME DAYS.......

by TrishJ

Some days I get so angry with myself for holding my daily pity party. I'm getting ready to move to my own apartment and really have to toss a lot of things. I came a across a thank you note from a friend of ours who lost her 26 year old son in a horrible construction accident several years ago. She printed this insert to include in the notes. On mine she wrote, "AND WE BELIEVE THIS WITH ALL OF OUR HEARTS":

You can shed tears that he is gone
or you can open your eyes and see all he has left.

Your heart can be empty because you can't see him,
or you can be full of the love you shared.

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday,
or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can remember him and only that he's gone,
or you can cherish his memory and let it live on.

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn back,
or you can do what he would want:

Wow~they lost their only child at a very young age. No future for him, no grandchildren in their lives. I who have beautiful memories, two children and tiny little grandchildren want to sit and feel sorry for myself. I have been truly blessed and my husband would want me to move forward. I'm trying.
I hope this inspires others like it did me today. All of our lost loved ones would want us to be happy and move on. Peace.

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Apr 09, 2011
by: Anonymous

Thank you for sharing.
It is beautiful and does put things into perspective.
The lives we shared with our loved ones should be wonderful cherished memories that bring us joy, not sadness.

My husband passed in December 2010 only one month after being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. He was 53 years young. We had 37 wonderful years together. We started dating in high school and we were married for 31 years.
I love him and miss him so much.

Pancreatic cancer is a quick death sentence. Knowing this, my husband and I took the time to discuss our own mortality. He told me he didn't want to leave me but he knew that it was within sight. He comforted me and assured me that HE knew I would be OK. Those conversations have sustained me through some very difficult days.
I thank God that we were able to talk openly about his impending death and I thank God everyday for the wonderful years we had together. My Faith that I will see my husband again some day is a powerful tool to get through these days. (My hope is that I see him sooner rather than alot later, but that decision is up to God not me.)

God Bless all of us on this site as we take one breath, one step at a time.

Apr 09, 2011
some days
by: Donna

Trish, Thank you so much for sharing the card your friend gave you. It is so inspiring. I know it has only been 8 1/2 months but there are some days that I too am just so tired of the daily pity parties, I guess we all have them. I have been successful at least for a couple of days of being able to talk about him and remember our past without bursting into tears. To me this is alot of progress. I can thank God for the last 26 years with my soulmate without being mad and crying. I hope this is moving on, it is what Bryan would want. I am going to print this post and keep it handy for those days when I am jerked back in time to the most horrible day of my life. Thank you so much for sharing. Keep us posted on your move, hope things go well. As always I go one step one breath one day at a time

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