someone took my brothers life

by joylyles
(brandon ms usa )


It is very hard prayed that things would get easier but it has not Monday 8-26-2013 will be 7 years my little brother has been gone some one hung him in a shed it was the saddest day of my life but yet i cant get it out of my head i keep thinking what would he be doing today would he have kids he passed when he was 19 just a kid and it feels like i just got that call telling me he was gone my heart has not been the same i don't think it ever will i miss him how do i deal with this all the pain is killing me

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Oct 03, 2013
someone took my brothers life
by: Anonymous

Doreen thank you so much you are a gift from god and i will take you up on the email and im sorry about your husband glad you got help

Oct 02, 2013
Someone took my brother's life
by: Doreen UK

Joylyles. You desperately need professional support with depression and all you are going through. I can understand how your husband has to work to pay the bills etc. My husband and I struggled all our married life. He was about to retire and then gets cancer and died 17 months ago. I have to struggle now on a small pension. Our government took back half of my husbands pension he worked over 47yrs. to accumulate. I am sorry to hear that you can't talk to a therapist because of the cost. I live in the UK and it is different here. I suffered depression for over 40 years. I did the expensive counselling for over 4yrs. My depression has all gone and I never suffered again the same way. I was in my 40's when I went into counselling. It is never too late. that was the best thing I did in my life for myself and my family. We can only help ourselves so far then we need one to one therapy. I saw this as a good investment. I couldn't have gone on any more in life with how I felt. I feel FREE and liberated for the first time in my life I felt that life was good. Like a miracle.
Couldn't you see your doctor and get a referral which wouldn't cost so much. After counselling I gave back 8 years in voluntary work to Mental Health charity. Best years of my life. I support people with depression by making myself available to them to talk to me. If you want this you can email me at doreenelkington@aol.com I will try my best to help you through this. I understand how desperate you are feeling and how you could feel with the correct support. It is just so sad that this service which many people need is so expensive. I look forward to hearing from you.

Oct 02, 2013
someone took my brothers life
by: joylyles

Omg someone please help with this grief it is destroying my family cause i cant get over this my husband is the only one that works and he has not been able to work cause of the state of depression im in please i need advice he has to work so he can pay the bills and keep food in .my kids mouth i cant talk to a therapist don't have the money and don't have inc please talk to me

Oct 02, 2013
someone took my brothers life
by: joylyles

Gina thank you so much for sharing and im sorry for yaws loss as well and it still hurts when will it stop i have to live my life but i just miss him so much it hurts to be as happy as i want to be i have a husband and 5 kids and that should make me the happiest woman in the world but there is an empty space where Jonathan should be and i want him back i just sit and cry

Sep 03, 2013
Little Broher
by: Gina

Hello, I lost my son Michael age 18 to murder. He has a older sister. I see the pain in her eyes all the time. Of her not having her little brother around any more. Dear big sister it will be 15 years Michael gone this Nov. At first the pain seems to keep us going, some kinda weird way. But the loving Memories will take its place

Aug 26, 2013
someone killed my little brother
by: Anonymous

Joylyles, this is a common problem most of us feel when we lose someone close we loved. We forget what our loved one's voice sounded like. I almost panicked over this almost as if I had to hear his voice again soon so I wouldn't ever forget. But 15 months on this becomes irrelevant as new memories surface and you can then remember a conversation almost as if our loved one was talking to us. Memories do come back. Whether they remain the same in many years I don't know? What is important in life is knowing about the afterlife and the Blessed Hope Jesus gave us when He left the earth. Jesus said. "I will come back again and receive you to myself that where I am there you may be also. So God had a Plan. To send Jesus to die for us so we can have eternal life. I live how Jesus wants me to, and claim the promise of eternal life. So I believe I will see my loves one's again and this Hope keeps me going each day.

Aug 25, 2013
someone killed my little brother
by: joylyles

Thank u for sharing miss.Betty fain it really helps when i talk to people that has been thru the same

Aug 25, 2013
someone killed my little brother
by: joylyles

U are right i do need help it has been to long but we were so close and what scares me is i dont remembet wht his voice sounded like but i can never forget his have im afraid if i forget his voice i will forget him and i dont want to :(

Aug 25, 2013
someone took my brothers life
by: Doreen U.K.

Joylyles, I am deeply sorry for your loss of your brother at age 19yrs. 7 yrs. ago. What a senseless tragedy. This would such a shock to your system. You need to urgently see a counsellor to help you work through your grief. 7yrs. is a long time to still feel the rawness of your grief. Some memories like this will take a long time IF EVER to leave your mind. But the rawness of your loss should not still assault you as it is doing.
Often grief makes us numb as if we are frozen and then when we start to thaw out we feel worse. In some ways it is a good thing because we feel our grief in small doses. Otherwise some people could lose their mind over such a loss. Other times one could be stuck in grief as if there is a blockage and they can't move forward. In this case one would need to work with a professional who is trained to help unblock this difficulty from grief that stops one moving forward.
I still have the horrendous memories of my husband's cancer journey and I can't get rid of what I saw. I still see his sad painful face telling me he doesn't want to die. I see his emaciated body (once a body builder) fade away. I see the pain he went through and couldn't bear. I don't have to remember it. IT IS JUST THERE. Almost as if I want someone to come and rub it out and change my memory bank. I do have newer memories come in now and it is causing the cancer memories to not be so painful which took over my mind. This is not happening now so this can only be a good thing. I have worked with a counsellor in the past years so I know it does work and I can and will move forward in time. It is all the times you will miss now. It is not knowing what your brother's life would have been like now that is so painful. We can't stop reminiscing.
I still have the memories of my nephew who threw himself in front of an express train 7 yrs. ago. Wondering what his life would be like now. His death changed our lives. My sister said the coroner's inquest report was so traumatic she couldn't share it with anyone. I hope you get the support you need to help you move forward.

Aug 25, 2013
i understand
by: betty m fain

None of us in this world will never understand why evil walks with us 'Joylyes'like you someone took my sister,i too keep going back in my mind every day and think about her...We will never for get them 'Joylyes' God don't want us to untill we meet again;i have been through the anger part really,really bad. The really down part and even wanted to stop living part!To now the forgiving part of those who did this.But it does not mean i still want cry nor not forget her but i ask God for help when them feelings come,God tells us he has sent the holly spirit to help us and that nothing can separat us from Gods love.To me that gives me hope for if God tells us this about him that means we can't be separated from our love ones too!

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