soon to be ex-husband with woman 37 years his junior
(Orange County, CA, USA)
After 26 years of marriage and four sons later, I found the courage to divorce my cheating lying husband who frequented sex clubs in L.A. and in the Philippines. He moved out of family home, stopped paying all household bills, hired a nasty unethical lawyer and has succeeded in not having to pay me any alimony these past 12 months. I have been searching for full time employment--I am a math teacher with an administrative credential and a Master's in educational technology. Bill collectors calling daily, don't know when I will have to move or where to get the funds to do it. My twin college age boys had to get college grants due to father spending all his money on his 27 year old Ukrainian girlfriend who is living with him in an upscale apartment. My husband is an executive for has spent $200,000 to his lawyer fighting me in family court and succeeding. The judge refused to adjudicate on spousal support 16 times in 9 months without any valid reasons for doing it. My husband has hidden family assets in the Philippines apparently for many many years now. I have no money to fight for my rights. The judge, who just retired, was buddies with my husband's attorney. It's been a nightmare. The ex invites our four sons to dinner and flaunts his girlfriend who is the same age as our oldest son! He travels with her and drives formula one cars while our boys and I barely have enough money to buy food! I have applied to over 100 positions for math teacher/assistant principal with no luck. I wonder if my age is against me-54. I loved my husband. I was blind for so long to his double life!!!!I loved him so much! I was faithful and committed to our marriage. I had put up with his verbal/emotional abuse and his controlling behavior because I wanted to keep my family together, for better or worse. I am scared that I will end up homeless and destitute. My lawyer is going to drop me due to nonpayment of lawyer fees. How does this happen in the United States? What is the point of all the laws if the judges don't follow them? All I can do is wake up every morning and put one foot in front of the other and hope this nightmare will end soon and that I can support myself and my sons. The thought of dating or finding a companion who will love and honor me are foreign ideas. I don't think I will ever get over the betrayal, the deceit, the lies and the nastiness that my husband and his lawyer has brought into the family courtroom. It's so bizarre. It is unbelievable that the ex was seeing many women throughout our marriage and now he has settled with a young illegal immigrant who is our son's age. We aren't even divorced yet!!!