I lost my Sophie in may this year she was 32 and alcoholic she had recently had her last child taken away from her through her drinking and violent relationship she ended up been drunk and attempting suicide from a window changed her mind in the end and shouted for her fella to save her but he couldn't hold on so she slipped through his hands but she wanted saving so it wasn't suicide we haven't had the inquest yet so they haven't said Wat its classed as but I can't stop thinking about her all the time looking at her pictures and thinking about how she died. She was so clever as a child but started drinking and it ruined her life made her aggressive and very depressed she also had other addictions going on I don't no What to do its like Ive gone from feeling so many emotions I'm not very well I'm on home oxygen and it's starting to overpower my whole life.

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Sep 28, 2014
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Sep 04, 2014
Your daughter
by: Kate

I feel your pain. I lost my son in 2012, an alcohol and cocaine mix that stopped his heart. It is shocking no matter how we loose them. It's our child and the pain is deep!! You are not alone in the grief you feel. It is so sad she could not be saved when she wanted to. We must know the pain is over for them,they are at peace. No more hurt and sorrow for them. It is us,trying to cope with this horrid loss.i pray everyday for is where I get what strength I do have. Try not to let the pain consume you......this comes bit by bit as we realize it is too hard to hurt this bad forever and we reach out for help. Coming here is a start. You have expressed and gotten some pain out. If we carry it the depth of it is too much.get help from The Lord or friends or others who have lost a child. Take care of you. We know the wonderful child under the alcohol or drug, we know why we miss them so much. We don't know why it had to go as it did. Tell yourself I will survive. I am alive. Take one day at a time and come here and shout if this helps. Caring love to you from a broken mother too.

Sep 03, 2014
by: Doreen UK

I am sorry for your loss of Sophie. Who know what pain causes one to reach for the bottle and think it will take our pain away. But it doesn't. Things get worse and before we know it we are addicted. I have been there. Sad because she lost her child. My heart is always grieved over those who are in pain and need help and it isn't there. Life is so hard and we struggle on each day despite our adversity.
It is so hard when you are ill and grieving a loss of a loved one. I have pneumonia at the moment and struggling. I could do with oxygen, but our hospitals can't cope with the lack of resources so I am sent home to recover. I feel more grief now that I am ill. I know how you feel coping with grief and illness and struggling to breathe.
Try and get some support for yourself so that you don't have to face this battle alone.

Sep 03, 2014
Your grief
by: SoSadDad

I'm guessing this is Sophie's mom. Mom, whether it was suicide or an accident, a child is gone. I lost both of my girls to heroin. It doesn't matter, both of my children are gone. You loved them, and would have done anything to help them, to save them. And now the grief is there. No one but a greiving parent can know what you are experiencing. The pain, the sorrow, the hopelessness and helplessness, the lonliness, all will be with you for a long time. But there is a life after losing a child. It does not seem possible now, I understand. For now, embrace the emotions you are feeling, and ignore those who will try to tell you how to grieve. You might want to try to find a local chapter of The Compassionate Friends. They are all parents who have lost children, and they offer support to other parents. No pressure, no cost, no "advice," just love and understanding. I wish I could take your pain, Sophie's mom. No one deserves this. But here we are, and we will survive, just as our children would tell us to, if they could. If you have faith, hold tight to it. Ask all the questions "why?" I did, and still do sometimes. But there really is no answer which would be acceptable. Give in to your emotions, but don't give up.

God bless you,

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