Starting to think I'm Crazy...

15 Years, two kids. Abruptly it all came down in the last year when he started drinking heavily and having affairs. He left and never looked back, not even for the kids. Four years later I am sitting here typing this and still crying. What the hell is wrong with me? I've decided I must be mentally ill. I need help.

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Dec 04, 2012
Not Crazy
by: Anonymous

I'm so sorry for your loss and the loss your kids must feel. You are not crazy, to me it just means that you put a lot of effort and care into your relationship and it's hard to see something you cared for be so easily disposed of by another who you thought should/would care. I hope you that very soon, by some miracle from God, you can feel at peace and be able to move forward without heartache to a life that you truly deserve. I know the pain...I'm still in it myself almost 3 years later, so I don't have ideas of how to do it, but I just want you to know that you are not alone. Hang in there.

Nov 24, 2012
Starting to think I'm Crazy....
by: Doreen U.K.

You are not Crazy. You will only be crazy if you sit there for another 4yrs. and do it all over again. Pondering on what might have been, and why he left you. What is important is. He left you and his children without thinking. He was more interested in himself and his affairs. But one day he will wake up and feel empty. Find the strength in yourself to wipe away your tears and say. I am not going to let this abandonment destroy me. I have 2 children to care for and myself and get support and help from organisations, family, friends, whoever to help you get back on your feet.
If he ever comes back to you. Don't let him back into your life. Don't let any lapse of memory or weakness let this man into your life and brainwash you with excuses. He left of his own free will. You have a Free Will now. USE IT to your advantage. I know it hurts. I almost went this route also. I have had to be strong. I have had to handle most of life by myself. You will find a strength in yourself to cope with life. I lost my husband of 44yrs. to cancer 6 months ago and I have no choice to go on ALONE. The biggest difficulty will be finding out how to support yourself and 2 children. Once you cross this barrier you will be on your way to making a success of your life. You are not mentally ill like you think. I did voluntary work in Mental Health Sector for 8 yrs. You are just very HURT and BRUISED by being abandoned, and left with a lot of sorrow.
It is a good idea to get some counselling for YOU! It will make you a stronger person and give you the foundation you need to start life again with a new slate. It will also make you more secure and give you back your self esteem so that if you meet someone else you won't attract the wrong person and you will be more secure that any new relationship will last. You can rise above this and be a Winner. Don't focus on your Pain. Focus on how you can get out of this mess you have been left in. Put a plan into action. Put it on Paper so you can see it and how these plans will unfold. See it as an adventure and you don't have to answer to anyone. You have the Power to make your life what you want it to be. Get excited about it. Saying this I now have to do the same thing as a Widow of 6 months. Best Wishes.

Nov 23, 2012
You need help
by: Anonymous

You're not crazy, you are depressed. You need to talk to someone who can help you get back on track. A psychiatrist or therapist who can assist you with learning to look at your situation objectively. Yes, it is hell, but unless you work it through, you'll still be sitting there in another four years.

Trust me. I've been there and I know just how tough it can be. But without the right kind of help, you could be lost. Get up and CALL someone for that. TODAY!

Nov 23, 2012
by: Judith in California

Dear STTCrazy,
Yes, after 4 years it's time to get help. Don't give him that kind of control over you that you would sit and pine away for such a lout. He's not worth your stopping living and going out and finding someone new to share your life with. Don't give him one more day of power to stop you from moving on and enjoying your remaining life. Go out and dance and have fun. There is more than one person for us and there are nice men out there but you won;t find one if you continue the way you are. Give yourself permission to be happy or content. Get going ! it's YOUR life not your EX.

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